Best friend turning lesbian on me because my bf is taking me away from her

[NyanNyan]

My best friend since 3rd grade is really really jealous of my boyfriend. We have been together for a little over 2 months and my friend only ever showed a bit of a problem. Well I used to be really lesbian towards my best friend . I had a huge girl-crush on her. She would constantly reject me. Today, I was having lots of problems with my boyfriend. He went out (but not on a date) with 3 other girls not including me, and one of them is his ex. I went into town with my best friend the same day. It was kind of awkward and I got jealous, but after about an hour my bf ditched the other girls and ran to my friend and I. My friend was for some reason very offended by this and she kept pretending that we were on a date before my boyfriend showed up. Obviously this got him really pissed because I have a history of girls falling for me. I wasn't quite sure if my friend actually fell for me today or if she was doing it as backup. Well whatever it was it's really confusing. I know she's jealous but would she go this far??

[Nicole!]

You need to talk to her about this.
That is the best thing you can do. Ask her how she is feeling about all this, and see how she feels towards you. I don't quite understand why she was jealous though, you were with her until he decided to join you. Are you making sure to spend some time with her occasionally? If you're mostly just with your boyfriend, that could be why she's jealous.

[Chris.]

I agree with Nicole - you need to communicate with her and talk to her. You cant assume anything - and the things that you can assume should never be put into an action. So always communicate - and this is what needs to be done here.

And jealousy is sometimes hard to understand - and she may be jealous for tons of reasons. But I think she may be jealous (if I understand this correctly) because she could have been with you but you moved on and found a boyfriend. But then again there could be alot of other reasons of why shes jealous. But like Nicole said - communicate and talk to her.




Best wishes,
Chris

[Aletheia*]

I agree that communication is needed. Your friend sounds like she's crossing a line, and it's definitely unfair for you. Though you CAN'T assume anything at this point, this is my guess: She's jealous that you and your bf spend so much time together, leaving her out of most of it. She has every right to feel this way, considering you've been best friends for quite some time. Now you have someone new in your life, and she feels replaced. However, that doesn't give her the right to tell your boyfriend lies, which she has done here. Communication is #1, so if you have to let her know how you feel about this.

[xxpaigiexx]

Hey,

It sounds as though your friend is jealous that you have a boyfriend and you don't want her as more than a friend. She probably isn't used to you dividing your time and probably thought that you both going shopping it was just going to be the two of you. I would make sure you address this before it gets out of hand. Speak to her and find out exactly what her problem is. Your friend probably just needs to take a bit of time to adjust to you being with someone and not having all of your time and attention. I would suggest you try to take some time to spend with her.

Best of luck,
Paige

[leavemealone]

I think that not even your friend knows whats going on right now. It seems like shes confused about how she feels toward you, and if you don't feel the same way, you need to let her know, because in the end shes just going to get hurt.