2 things I have to ask

[LoneWolfintheWind]

1. Over my Christmas break I was still single so to celebrate before I got into a low serious relationship basically dating another girl. Me and my friend with benefits had sex over break, twice, and I'm a little concerned about the second time having to do with the fact that the second time it took me 2 hours to finish, it was in a car and Im on prescription antidepressants (SRI's), and it was my first time having sex in a year. Something wrong with me medically (I already know im messed mentally lol)?

2. I'm dating this girl and shes getting kind of clingy even though that's what she told me she hates (clinginess) and I'm enjoying our relationship just she's open to everything but full out sex and I think she's just scared, because I've read all the signs and shes ready and wants to, but is just scared...any way I can help her with that or just not and let her figure it out on her time.

[MisterD94]

Everyone has a rough time getting it done once in a while. If it keeps happening I might tell a doctor, they can give the best advice.
As far as your girlfriend, just reassure her that you want her safe and that you care about her. Girls who are scared just want to know that you aren't going to dump her the second you have sex with her, or something of that nature. I know all about girlfriends being clingy, my ex who I broke up with just a few days ago was clingy as well as bipolar. If it's dealing with texts, take a few minutes to respond; I wait normally 5 minutes to respond between texts when I don't feel like talking. You could also talk to her about it straight up, but be light about it and don't seem angry or stressed.

[FillingWithHope]

It might not just be you, if it keeps happening where you keep finishing a lot longer than you remember then defiently see a doctor. Also, with your girlfriend just give her the time she needs and when she is really sure that she wants to have sex than thats fine. She is probably scared because most girls have learned the hard way from either experience or having a friend go through it where the guy just uses them for sex and then never talks to them again. She may be ready, but she may want to wait. I know when I get clingy though that means that something is bothering me and I just feel alone and need somebody to talk to, so maybe she has a lot on her mind. Just give her some time and make sure she knows that you care for her and that you don't push the sex. Good Luck!

[Aletheia*]

1. Don't quote me, but it might be the medications that you're on that took you so long to reach the big finish. We're not medical doctors, so if there is something medically wrong with you, you'd have to speak to a doctor.

2. She needs to figure it out on her own time. All of us have a difficult time coming to this decision, and I wouldn't push her to do anything she doesn't want to do. If her clinginess is bothering you, I'd talk to her honestly about this.

[LoneWolfintheWind]

thanks everbody and august we both have a lot of shit on our minds and she bottles emotions like I do but I just want time alone for a lil bit. and I tell her that she can tell me her emotions but she doesnt, but still txts a lot and just talks and clings if that makes sense