What do I do?

[Phantom5876]

There is this girl in my class who I love deeply. If I could figure out a way how to express this feeling into words I would, but I can't. The problem is, she doesn't love me back. It all started back in junior year when we had to do an english paper, which included writing an epiloque for a bunch of stories we had written. We could either write our own, or have someone else do it. I haad asked her if she wanted to switch so we could write eachothers. It was shortly after she agreed that I found out she was a cutter. Her parents are constantly fighting eachother and she's under stress due to school. She wold confide with me during this time and I would help her out the best that I could. This went on for about 7 months. During this time, I began to have feelings for her. Towards the end of July, I told her I loved her. Shortly after that, I got a essage from her telling me to stop texting her. The next couple of weeks were terrible for me. I wanted to talk to her about anything, even if it was only for a second. During that time, I had thought about cutting myself as a way to overcome my depression, though I never went through with it. She later told me she just wanted to be friends, nothing more. Although it was hard, I could love with that, but she still wouldn't talk to me. It took about 3 months before she would talk to me, and only because I would talk to her first, and even then only because of school related things. Now, she at least is talking to me freely, though I know it wasnt like it used to be, before I told her I loved her. I came here because I wanted to know what I could do. What could I do to help? What could I do to try and get her to talk to me more freely, without pushing. I don't want to lose her again. It was bad enough the first time. Please, if you can help me, will you?

[Skeleton]

In my opinion, there isn't much you can do. Your friendship may not be where you want it to be at the moment but by the sounds of things, it's slowly starting to get better. If you just carry on with how things are at the moment, I'm sure eventually you'll back to being friends again. There is no guarantee it'll be how it was but you've just got to give it time and let it happen on it's own rather then forcing it and risking ruining your friendship again.

[ronymajani]

My advice based on personal experience is to just stay friends cause when a girl like her says stop texting me and she ignores you means she is giving you a sign that says stop bothering me I'm not interested and that you have passed the boundries (crossed the line) meaning that she isn't into you and based on her depression and stuff I say she doesn't need a boyfriend now she just needs a close friend to support her, so try to d more homework with her and make her feel comfortable around you and with time she might become fond of you and then just go with the flo but for now just be her friend and I know you're not going to listen to me unless you get 200 opinions that agree with me so just think about it, and maybe she's under to much stress and depression and you are just adding more weight over her head so if you truly love her as you claim you do which I believe is just hormones and you desperation to have a relationship, meaning the first girl you find atractive that you aquaint you'll want to dat but that will just dsetroy your friendship and I assure you she's isn't the one just be a good guy and be her friend even if she pushes you away because everyone needs a friend.

[Aletheia*]

I think telling her that you loved her probably threw her off, and made her back off the friendship. Love isn't something you throw around, especially the word. Love is a scary word for some people, and sadly, this is probably what you did. Love is built over time, when you're in a relationship with someone. It doesn't just happen; as much as we'd like to believe it does, it doesn't.

There isn't much you can do. She just wants to be friends, and that is something you need to comply with. Your friendship sounds like it's getting better, so be happy she's in your life as a friend than nothing at all.