Cheating

[JC!]

Ok I was wondering if I could get other peoples opinions on this please. Here is a few questions:

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?

Have you ever been cheated on?

Have you ever cheated?

(if you dont want to fill in the two above no worries just skip them)

Any reasons not to tell them?


I've added a poll also.

Thanks in advance for any replies.
JC!

[Revolution]

Yes, but I want to explain something. I think cheating. personally, is unacceptable. There's something called a "break up." If you are interested in another person, break up with your current love interest. If you like both at once, you need to think about your options. I have been attracted to other men, but I have self control, and I know my boyfriend does too. Its normal to have feelings for many people, we are sexual creatures, but at the same time, let's avoid getting other people hurt and have the common courtesy not the cheat.

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
Sort of answered already, but yes.

Have you ever been cheated on?
Sort of. It was an unserious relationship.

Have you ever cheated?
Never.

(if you dont want to fill in the two above no worries just skip them)

Any reasons not to tell them?
If you're going to break up with them anyway? I don't know. Just don't cheat.

[Le bonheur*]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
Yes. If you can cheat on your partner, have the courage to tell. Cheating isn't right. If you're no longer interested in your partner, leave. It's as simple as that. No need to hurt him/her more than you already will.

Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes.

Have you ever cheated?
Never have, never will.

Any reasons not to tell them?
I don't think so.

[Aletheia*]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?

Yes. My boyfriend and I came up with an agreement or a pact of sorts in the beginning of our relationship. If either one of us cheated, we'd tell each other. I have nothing to confess, and thus far, neither has he. But, it's always important to tell your sig oth. They may find out from outside sources, potentially making the situation worse.

Have you ever been cheated on?

Yes. As far as I know, I've been cheated on by every guy I've dated, except my current boyfriend (to my knowledge anyway).

Have you ever cheated?

I cheated on my ex boyfriend with my current boyfriend. Was it smart? Probably not, but I can't go through life regretting the past. I got a great man out of it, though it took us two years to officially begin dating. The question is: WILL I cheat? Absolutely not. My boyfriend means more to me than anyone else in this world.

Any reasons not to tell them?

Absolutely not. Cheating is unacceptable, and while I may be calling the kettle black by saying that, I was young and stupid when I cheated on my ex (which I did on more than one occasion). I personally think I wanted to be single, but couldn't bring myself to break up with him for whatever reason. Although, that's not an excuse and I don't pretend I have any excuses. I know what I did was wrong, and looking back, I should have told him but I haven't. Again, I can't go on regretting the past.

[Koharuchan]

Yes, you should tell your boyfriend or girlfriend if you cheated. They deserve to know, and if they find out later from someone else it could cause big problems.

Yes, I was once cheated on.

No, I would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend. My boyfriend is everything to me. He's helped me through so much and is always there for me. He's loyal and caring, more so than anyone I've ever met. He gives me love and respect every day, and he deserves the same from me. I would never forgive myself if I cheated on him. Cheating is horrible. If you don't want to be with someone, break up with them and then go to the one you really want to be with.

[Skeleton]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
Definitely, they deserve to know.

Have you ever been cheated on?
I'm not sure, I've been told I have by two/three of my exes but then they said they didn't so, I don't know..

Have you ever cheated?
Once. I got into a relationship which I wasn't really interested in while I was still interested in someone else, we got drunk together and kissed like we usually ended up doing on two different occasions but I wouldn't do it again.

Any reasons not to tell them?
No, they deserve to know what happened because it isn't fair on them.

[Nicole!]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
I don't cheat, but I definitely think you should confess. They deserve to know.

Have you ever been cheated on?
No I haven't, but my ex did like another girl during out relationship.

Have you ever cheated?
No I have not.

[Justin Bieber]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
Yes. You can't have a relationship based on lies.

Have you ever been cheated on?
Not to my knowledge.

Have you ever cheated?
I almost cheated once, but no, I have never cheated. I ended up just breaking up with my boyfriend that day.

Any reasons not to tell them?
No. I think honesty is the base for every relationship. If you don't have honesty, you have nothing anyways.

[Dez]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?

I think that yes, you should confess everything to your boyfriend or girlfriend. Simply put, if you're cheating on the person you're with, maybe it is time to rethink whether or not you should actually be with them, because if you really loved them, you wouldn't be cheating.

Have you ever been cheated on?

Nope! I've also never been in a relationship, though.

Have you ever cheated?

Never have, never will.


Any reasons not to tell them?

I guess the only reason I can think of for why I wouldn't tell someone would be fear of their reaction, but you're supposed to be honest in a relationship, so it's best to tell them.

[SamMarie]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
Yes. Being honest is the best thing you can aim for otherwise things will just get worse.

Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes and I almost ran him over with my car literally. Luckily, it wasn't anything too serious. I just couldn't believe someone would do something so unfaithful even if the relationship wasn't that serious.

Have you ever cheated?
Nope. I don't plan to.

[niente_]

Eh, I've cheated on two But when I did, I immediately broke up with them. Basically our relationships had run its course and I should have ended it, but I was selfish and chose not to, and ended up kissing another guy in each case. When I did, I ended it.

I'd probably rather be oblivious to cheating to be honest. Finding out would be the end of my relationship with anyone instantly. I'd try to forgive and forget, but I'd get possessive and insecure, and that's not the kinda person I wanna be.

[SerenitySmile]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
I'm not cheating on my current boyfriend, but I cheated a couple times with my ex. I really think it depends on the situation. For me, I felt obligated to cheat because the guy I hooked up with didn't wanna leave until we did it. I think it's hard to confess within a few days of doing it, but maybe within a week.

Have you ever been cheated on?
Not to my knowledge.

Have you ever cheated?
See above.

[brokensmilexx]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
Yes, its better to confess then have them find out another way

Have you ever been cheated on?
Not that I know of

Have you ever cheated?
Technically I guess yeah, we talked about it though and it was okay.

Any reasons not to tell them?
Afraid of being abused, if they've been abusive before

[FillingWithHope]

If you really love/like the person then they have the right to know. Plus if you keep it all bottled then you have this guilt feeling and it makes the relationship much worse, Espically if they find out. I have not been cheated on and no I have never cheated on any of my boyfriends. There is no reason not to tell them unless the person said they were going to kill you if you told your mate.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
Yes. You made the decision to cheat, they should have the decision to decide whether they want to stay with you.

Have you ever been cheated on?
Nope.

Have you ever cheated?
Nope.

Any reasons not to tell them?
I can't think of any.

[Pelios]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
It might be hard but I don't think I could bare not telling him.

Have you ever been cheated on?
No.

Have you ever cheated?
No.

[Bella xx]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
Yes, I think that you should confess eerything. One of the main components of a good relationship is honesty, but then again if you were honest in the first place you wouldn't have cheated.
Have you ever been cheated on?
I think my latest boyriend did cheat on me, but I am not making any acusations because I am not sure.
Have you ever cheated?
Nope, and I never will. I think it is morally wrong.
Any reasons not to tell them?
None that I can think of.

[Aaron,]

I ruined the perfect relationship because I cheated 6 months ago while visiting Paraguay in another country. She found out seconds before I was going to tell her. I still haven't forgiven myself.

[craz33me]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf? I think you should.

Have you ever been cheated on? Yess.. More than once.

Have you ever cheated? Nope.


Any reasons not to tell them?
Nope.

[Brandon]

Originally Posted by JC!

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?

You should, but that kind of defeats the purpose on cheating. If your partner knew about the second relationship, it wouldn't be cheating. Cheating is manipulation. If you're cheating on a boyfriend, you arguably don't love the boyfriend enough to confess about it. The only way that I would confess to cheating on someone is if I felt that my girlfriend deserved a confession; however, if my girlfriend deserved it, then why would I cheat on her in the first place?

Originally Posted by JC!

Have you ever been cheated on?

Not to my knowledge.

Originally Posted by JC!

Have you ever cheated?

Several years ago when I was like...12 or something.

Originally Posted by JC!

Any reasons not to tell them?

If it's an abusive relationship, that's debatable. Typically, no one has a legit reason why they shouldn't tell their boyfriends that they're cheating on them. Ultimately, the only reason why you shouldn't is because you'll be confessing something that you may not want to confess.

[TheCrowing]

I find cheating to be the worst thing to do to your gf/bf.. ever. So I would never do that. I would rather break up with him or her because if I'm thinking about someone to a point where I want to be with them, there's a bit of a problem.

But.. I think that if you cheat, it's very important to tell the person you cheated on about what you did. I know from experience that it sucks when someone doesn't tell you they cheated on you and you either find out from someone else, or have a feeling and ask. I've been cheated on by 3 of my 4 exes. I always tell them that if they cheat on me, or if they want to break up with me for someone else, I rather them just tell me straight out than wait. They say they didn't want to hurt me.. No. Telling me later is just as painful as telling me now. =P So get it over so I can get over with it.

So yes, I've been cheated on. But I've never cheated.

[Itsboxman]

Never cheated. Hopefully never cheated on.

There is really no point in cheating.

[Chris.]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
Yes! It will most likely come out eventually - so its best to just be the first one to tell them, and if you decide to continue the relationship than you need to earn there trust back.

Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes, and its sucks.

Have you ever cheated?
To some context - yes.

Any reasons not to tell them?
In my opinion - no!

[xxpaigiexx]

I think cheating is wrong unfortunately it does happen. I have been cheated on and I know how much it hurts, I've been on both sides of the spectrum. I think it hurts to find out you've been cheated on but everyone deserves honesty at the end of the day.

[bitesize]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
It can depend on the situation (my personal reasons are below.) However I think if you want to have the best relationship you can, you should definitely be as honest as possible. If I cheated on my current boyfriend I would tell him straight away.

Have you ever been cheated on?
Technically no, not to my knowledge anyway.

Have you ever cheated?
Yes. I cheated on my ex-boyfriend for a month, three years ago. I thought I was happy in the relationship and could never understand why I was cheating ~ apart from the obvious havingyourrcakeandeatingit novelty ~ but looking back it was a desperately unhappy relationship and actually classed as emotionally abusive, which I didn't know at the time. It was my first one. Analysing it now, our relationship was often like a competition over who was better, and I think it was because he made me feel so crap about myself all the time that cheating on him was my way of having one up on him, reminding myself that I was stronger than he made me feel, and the person i was cheating with liked me and made me feel good about myself. Logically I should have just broken up with him, but like I said, I thought I was happy with him. I broke it off with the girl I was cheating with when I realised I'd fallen in love with my boyfriend.

I'm in a happy relationship now ~ a genuinely happy one ~ and would never cheat on my boyfriend.

Any reasons not to tell them?
If you don't want to be broken up with, I suppose, which is a little cowardly. I never told my boyfriend ~ or anyone, for that matter ~ because we had a lot of mutual friends, a lot of mutual friends who were in couples, and were in the same year in school. I knew that if I confessed he wouldn't just have broken up with me, he would have let everyone know what I'd done and turned my friends against me. Maybe deservable, but I knew I couldn't face that.

I don't regret not telling him ~ it improved our relationship slightly because sometimes I was able to stand up to him more with the knowledge of what I'd done that he didn't know about. Looking back at the way he treated me I'm glad that I cheated and never told him, it makes me feel a little less ashamed of myself for putting up with his behaviour.


^^Oh jays, this turned into a bit of a personal ramble.....my apologies!!

[SarSar91]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
*Yes I think you should, it better than hearing it from someone else and plus you have a better chance of being forgiven and have better chance of repairing the relationship


Have you ever been cheated on?
*Yes many times and all because I wasn't ready for sex or (not putting out)

Have you ever cheated?
I was tempted once but I never went ahead with it as i knew i would regret it later


Any reasons not to tell them?
Only reason I can think for not telling someone that you've cheated if there is a risk you could get hurt for example : you partner has been know to be violent

[BlueWolf]

If you cheat, do you think you should confess everything to your bf/gf?
Yes, I think you should always be honest. Your boyfriend/girlfriend is trusting you to be, and trust is a major part of a relationship.

Have you ever been cheated on?
Multiple times, and every time I never found out until after we broke up, but I somewhat knew before I actually found out. Honestly, it's happened enough times, and I've seen it happen to others enough times for me to wonder if it is the 'norm'.

Have you ever cheated?
Yes. The first time, completely against my will, so I won't count that one. The other time I was high. Both times, I told my boyfriend the very next day exactly what happened, and it worked out.

Any reasons not to tell them?
None what so ever.