Rebuilding things with an Ex

[TigerTank77]

Yeah you heard me.

I did some reflecting recently and I ended up messaging my ex, after breaking up with her a year ago. She messaged me back, and essentially told me I was right about everything and that she was hoping I'd message her cause she missed me and never thought I'd talk to her again.

We talk a little more, and we agree that if we take it slow, we both want to start rebuilding and try again.

So here I am 3 days later... and not much has happened.

We've gone through the "I missed you" bullshit, and right now we're just kind of chatting.

To be honest, I've never attempted this with an ex before. I don't want to rush into anything, but at the same time, just talking like old friends is getting kind of dull. I thought about maybe trying to get more sexual, but I'm not sure if it's too soon or if she's think that's all I'm after.

Basically... is there some sort of time table or general rule with this shit? I figured if things went well I'd see her round valentines day and things would get heated and all that good stuff, but I'm just not used to having to... rebuild.

I don't know. Anyone have any ideas?

[BrokenCountry]

I would say to take it slow and see where it goes. You don't want to go through all this rebuilding and then rush into it because you feel like that talking is just dull and then it end again in the future.
Maybe if you took her out to dinner and a movie or something and see where it goes from there.
In the end, just be yourself and if it's meant to be, it will fall into place.

[TigerTank77]

Originally Posted by BrokenCountry

I would say to take it slow and see where it goes. You don't want to go through all this rebuilding and then rush into it because you feel like that talking is just dull and then it end again in the future.
Maybe if you took her out to dinner and a movie or something and see where it goes from there.
In the end, just be yourself and if it's meant to be, it will fall into place.

If she wasn't in another state I'd totally do that.

Right now all we have is communicating via phone and text... which I'm guessing is why things seem dull.

[BrokenCountry]

well, doesn't that put a twist on things.
try and keep the talking going maybe in the end things were meant to be and everything will work out for you.

[Chris.]

I would just communicate with her and tell her that you think you guys should go to the next level - and tell her that this feels alittle dull and you really want to be interactive with her and start building the second floor of the building instead of just focusing on the first floor. Communication is key - and she may think its dull as well so you might as well atleast ask her and talk to her about this. Better than killing yourself of boredom and eventually losing attraction.



Best wishes,
Chris

[shortiie.so.nice]

Ben I understand what you are going through in trying to rebuild something with an EX. I too wanted to do that but then I had to realize do I want to go back to what i just left. I honestly have that love for my EX but i dont think i will go back to that person. I would rather work on myself. But Ben if u think that ur happiness is with ur EX then go for it just make sure ur doing the right thing.