need advice D:

[SneezingPanda]

My girlfriend and i have been together for nearly six months now, and i love her to death. but throughout these past six months...she's hurt me...alot...way more then there should be in a relationship...but i love her so much...i dont want to have the relationship end. the good times outweigh the bad, which is good. yet there are all those times she's hurt me. i've been told by many of my friends that i should end it, but i really dont want to. she's so good to me. im just very confused on how to approach the situation. My heart says stay but my brain says leave. help D;

[xxpaigiexx]

Hi Kat,

You say the good out weighs the bad. In such a short amount of time neither of you should be hurting one another. I'm sure your friends are telling you this for your own good and because they care. As much as I'm sure you love your girlfriend is one person worth this much hurt and pain? I've been through it with an ex before and in the end it tires you because a relationship should make you happy most of the time, of course there are hard times and it's all about over-coming them, but in the first 6 months of a relationship there shouldn't be this much hassle. I think you should take some time to think of what you want from this relationship and whether your girlfriend is worth all of this hassle and hurt.

Best of luck,
Paige

[SerenitySmile]

Hey Kat, it's Kat I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through...are you talking about emotional or physical hurt? I realize they both can have the same effects, but causing physical pain to someone is downright illegal. If this is the case, it's really best you find a way out of your situation. This doesn't mean you guys will never talk to each other again, but *you* are your number 1 priority. If you're being emotionally hurt there's a different story. Have you tried to talk to her? I completely can relate to loving somebody so much that leaving them seems impossible to imagine. Try to talk to her and work it out, maybe there's just a miscommunication...but if your safety is ever in danger, make sure you find a better situation.

[SneezingPanda]

its all emotional hurt, she's made some bad choices that have lead to her doing something that ends up hurting me. not physical what so ever. and yea, the two of us have had many conversations and shes aware shes walking on thin ice. i have thought alot about our relationship and realize that i do love her, but whenever the thought of ending it comes to mind i just want to cry. then again im told time and time again im better off without her :/ what i want is to stay but when my friends hear that they get angry with me...i don't -want- to leave her...but i know there has to be a line somewhere when enough is enough...i just dont know where that is or how to handle my feelings. i guess i can now understand that typical story of the girl going back to the asshole time and time again...not saying my girlfriend is an asshole shes an amazing girl, just makes some stupid choices here and there :/

[Aletheia*]

You're right; there certainly does need to be a line where things have to end. The good might outweigh the bad, but she's been seriously hurting you and I can gather that just by the way you've posted your thread. If you've talked about it, and nothing has changed something NEEDS to be done. It's entirely unfair for you, no matter what she's been through in the past. She shouldn't make YOU suffer for things SHE'S suffered long ago. A line needs to be drawn, and she needs to make sure she doesn't cross it if she wants this relationship to remain intact.

[SneezingPanda]

so...kinda like last chance thing? i really dont want to end it with her...but i dont want to be hurt again

[Aletheia*]

Second chances rarely ever work. After my boyfriend seriously hurt me, it worked for a while but he just ended up hurting me again and it led to us breaking up (both included cheating scenarios). I know the situations are different, but you've talked several times and nothing has changed. You can only give so many "second" chances.

[SneezingPanda]

yea...that is true...its been a month or so sense she screwed up real bad...things have been pretty good sense then, she's made a difference...i dont see a reason to end it now...just if time comes that she does something again...i guess i have my answer now :/