Non-PG13: Is anything going to come of this?

[Tigerlily.]

I mean, I have this friend and lets just call him K. Well I've had a crush on K since last year and this year I told him how I did then but I knew he didn't feel the same way and I valued our friendship over a simple little crush that nothing would ever come of. Well I still have a crush on him and he knows it (keep in mind I feel terrible because I have a girlfriend, it's long distance which is difficult but we are still together right now) but we text and stuff like friends. Then one night I ask how he is and he replies, "horny " well we continued talking and I guess he can be open about that sorta thing but then again I don't know. Well at the time he was single and one thing lead to another and we started sexting (no pics, just words) well just a couple of days ago he started going out with this girl. We still text and he would still send the suggestive messages. I would try to steer him in the direction of, "Well you have a girlfriend, maybe you should talk to her about sex since you do want to have sex," and he said they had talked but she's in a different state for two weeks and saying how he doesn't think he can last two weeks. Anyway, I just kept encouraging him by saying, you can do it, it's only two weeks. It's been months since you last had sex, what's two more weeks?

Well basically one thing lead to another and we ended up sexting again... And every time, even this time, he always wants me to come over (even though these sexting sessions are at like 2 in the morning). He's always wanting me to come over and I always say how at 2 in the morning I sorta can't. Well it went even further this time, it got into pictures... Now before like we would talk and I knew like how big he was etc... But we never saw each others parts. Anyway, he sent me pics, and I admit I sent him some (and before you say it's a bad idea, yes I know, I've made that mistake before, I trust this guy and he trusts me to not show his pictures to anyone, please no nagging on this subject). Anyway point being that when it's late at night and we're both turned on, we end up sexting, even now when he has a girlfriend.

I feel sorta bad because of the fact that now he does have a girlfriend and it's not fair to her for him and me to be doing these things. But at the same time, I wish that he would just tell me if he likes me or not. I think he does but I have no idea if it would ever go anywhere. Like honestly, with most guys, I have serious trust issues after having gone through what I have but I would trust K with my life. He has always been there for me, and in all honesty I wouldn't hesitate on the idea of having sex with him, I trust him. But with my ex he kept pushing for it and I just wasn't ready, but with K, if tomorrow him and his girlfriend broke up and he asked me out, I would tell my girlfriend that she deserves someone who loves her with all of their heart and I'm sorry that that's not me, and I would date Kris, and honestly if a heat of the moment kind of thing happened, even if things didn't work out, I wouldn't regret it.

Sorry this is so long, I'm just so confused on if this ever has a chance of going anywhere, I know K and he isn't the type of guy to just use a girl for sex, I really do think he has feelings for me but he just won't say it! And I want to know if things don't work out with him and his girlfriend, if maybe something could happen between us, do you think? I'm thinking that if something happens and they break up I might ask him out since I really don't see him asking me out. I am just so confused...

[Nicole!]

Honestly, I don't think he likes you. It sounds like he is just using you for his own enjoyment when he is single or his girlfriend is out of town; when he's lonely. Remember that you are both currently in a relationship, and this isn't a good idea as you know. If he did have feelings for you, then I'm sure when he was last single he would have made it known rather than getting a different girlfriend.
My advice is to stop sexting him before you get hurt.

[ff.picc]

I'm going to agree with Nicole here. He seems like a guy who is thinking with the wrong head right now. He doesn't seem like he knows what he wants, but I don't think he likes you. Any guy that has a main focus in the sexual field is prob. not going to turn out well for a unsure female. (In my experience). I wish I had better news for you. I do believe you should stop sexting him, and tell him that what he is doing to his girlfriend is wrong. It seems as though if it was any other guy you wouldn't be doing this sort of thing, so I can't come down too hard on you, although your almost cheating on your girlfriend as well. I know I'd freak out if I found out my girlfriend is sexting a random guy.

[Aletheia*]

I'm also going to agree with Nicole. I know you said you didn't want any nagging on the picture thing, but I can't help but bring this up (Don't worry; I'm not judging you for what you did. We all make mistakes, I just need to get this off my chest. I won't nag, I promise!). While I know how intimate it is sexting with this guy, and you decided to do that (when he was single), he now has a girlfriend. Text messages are one thing, but photo's are another. What happens if his girlfriend finds those photo's of you? Yes, you trust him but can she be trusted not to send the photo's out, even if she doesn't know it's you? This is something you need to think seriously about. It could happen.

You're both currently in relationships, and if you aren't happy with your girlfriend, I would end things instead of stringing her along. That's not fair for her, and it's definitely not fair for you. All things considered, you should stop sexting with him until a time comes when he's single, and it would be more appropriate. Do this before you do get hurt.

[Tigerlily.]

Someone please close this thread please. I feel like such a whore for any and all for this just please close it, please. And to those who posted thanks for the advice, and no it isn't anything you guys said that makes me want this closed so badly. I just feel like such a whore, GOD! Just please close this thread someone, please.

[Aletheia*]

I know you want the thread closed, but I can't help but respond!

You're not a whore. We all make mistakes. That doesn't mean you're a bad person, or a whore. You just made some bad choices. It happens to the best of us all the time. Please don't feel that way. You're such an amazing person!

[Tigerlily.]

It just happens to me all the time and I can't help but feel like it. I make terrible decisions all the time, and I can never make a right one. I just wanna curl up in a ball and die...

[Aletheia*]

Cheye! Don't say that. You have to live and learn. There isn't anything wrong with that.

[Nicole!]

I am closing this due to the OP's request.
I'd just like to add that we all make mistakes, and it doesn't make you a whore. Whore is a term that is tossed around too much these days, and it means more than people realize. A whore is someone who has sex with several people and doesn't really regret it. You just sexted one guy and you thought it may be something more. Live and learn, that's all you have to do.