what should I do??

[greds6]

Ive liked this guy at my school for about a month now and I really want something to come of it. The problem is that he is my best friend and Im not sure what his reaction would be if I told him about me liking him. Also, Im not sure if he is gay or not.
What should I do about this? Should I just tell him and hope for the best?
Any help is very appreciated

[stfu.cuppycake]

Well, in my opinion; Tell him, straight out. Who knows ? He might like you too. I've been in the same shoe before. I liked my best guyfriend. After I got over him & got an amazing boyfriend, I told him all about it, about how I felt about him... Well guess what ? He liked me too. If I could go back & take that chance I got. I would... But I can't. Anyway, just tell him. It wouldn't hurt for him to know how you feel. Inbox me if you need more advices x.

[Nicole!]

I would just tell him too.
If he thinks its weird and starts to distance himself, then you know he wasn't a very good friend in the first place.
If he doesn't feel the same, then it may be a bit awkward for awhile but it is possible to remain friends. It just may be harder for you because you'll have to get over him.
Dropping hints may seem like an easier way of telling him, but he may not pick up on them. So the best, most clear cut way is to just straight out tell him how you feel.

[Chris.]

I agree - Telling him is the best. You cant assume, and you cant hint because thats how mis-communications happen. Hearts are often broken by words left unspoken, so talk to him.

I agree with Nicole, if he does in fact not like you - then it may be a bit awkward - but I'm sure if he still likes you as a friend than the friendship will continue.

If he does admit to liking you - then great!

I wish you the best.



Best wishes,
Chris

[Shawn K.]

You gotta test the friendship dude.

This past summer, one of my best friends who I've basically grown up with, told me about some sex stuff he'd done with another guy we both know. He was freaking out about whether he was gay and what would he do if his family and friends found out. I told him I didnt know if he was gay or not, but he'd have to do a whole lot worse shit than that to make me stop being his friend. When I asked him later what made him talk to me, he said he needed to talk to somebody. He believed I was his friend and he'd read somewhere that sometimes you just gotta "test the friendship."

If this dude is your friend, it's gonna work out either way.

[greds6]

thanks to everyone who gave advice.
i told him two days ago and he was alright with it and today he told me that he thinks that he is gay and might like me back.
so thanks again it turned out great for me and im thinking about asking him out.

[Nicole!]

You should ask him out, just tell him that its a way for you two to see if things could work between you two. Make it casual and just to test the waters, and he won't feel like he has to in order to not hurt you or anything.

[Chris.]

I agree - maybe just ask him out or just hangout with him more and than ask him out. I'm glad that you communicated with him - and hopefully all will go well!

Feel free to PM me if you need anything!