Non-PG13 (Strong Language): Boyfriend's best FEMALE friend ?!

[stfu.cuppycake]

She's getting on my fucking nerves ! She tries her fucking best to break me & my boyfriend up ! If you read my older post about her & shit. You'll know what I mean, they dated 5 times last year. Yes, I got over that shit. Anyway, I try my fucking best to fix things with her but she just blows shit up !. She talks shit about me with my ex best friend. Yes, it fucking bothers me. How ? I never even said a word about them. Because. Well, I have a fucking life -.-. You're probably wondering wtf happened to my boyfriend ? Ohk so, we had a fight before (me & his best female friend.) my boyfriend ended their friendship because she was the reason why we almost broke up. Then, she came back crawling to him. Begging, to give her another chance. That she would leave me alone & our relationship. He gave her another chance. Anyway, now ! She asked my boyfriend to go movies with her this weekend. ALONE. Ohk, I trust my boyfriend. I was FINE with it. But my boyfriend told me he didn't want to go. Because well, she might try doing things to him that will break us up. (she's willing to do everything to break us up like fuck offff.) anyway, I told him to tell her... My boyfriend told her ' I don't want to go, I can't because I'm going out with family. ' anyway, she thinks I told my boyfriend not to go with her !. Now she's just fucking swearing all over. She wants war ? I'd love to fucking give it to her ! But, I seriously don't want this... Why ? Because I have best guy friends too. I don't want them & my boyfriend fighting. What do I do ? I mean, seriously. She's getting on my nerves. I know so much girls that are fighters. They're willing to help me bash the living shit out of her & her friends who knows nothing but spreading rumours about me. Anyway, how do I stop her from getting on my nerves ? :/ thank you in advance. Sorry for my language, I'm just really pissed.

[TheBabyEater]

Look man, simple as this: If he won't tell this girl to stop trying to break you off, you need to reconsider this relationship. He shouldn't be hanging out with people so hellbent on breaking you two up, no matter their past.

[Koharuchan]

I agree completely with Marissa. Your boyfriend should be defending you here, telling this girl to back off and stop trying to screw up your relationship. If he's still hanging out with her and being her friend after all she's done to you and your relationship, then he doesn't sound like a very good guy. Talk to your boyfriend about this. Tell him that you understand she's his friend, but he needs to tell her back off and stop spreading rumors. If he can't at least do that, then he doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend.

[Ambiance]

Seriously, quit dropping the F-bomb and freaking out. You will "win" by appearing to be the more poised, normal person in this situation. If your boyfriend and you both know she just wants to break you guys up, I don't really see why he should be friends with her and associate with all the drama she starts.

[Amber]

You need to be the bigger person and treat this girl in the nicest way you can. Be cheerful and SUPER nice to her. Don't act like you're best friends or anything but don't be rude to her. Chances are she'll get upset because then she'll know it isn't bothering you. But on a more serious note, if your boyfriend had to lie to her about why he didn't want to go to the movies with her then you might want to rethink your relationship anyway. He should be on your side and shouldn't even want to hang out with this girl. But you guys are young and if it doesn't work out, believe me, it won't be the end of the world. Talk to him and tell him that things need to change if he wants to be with you. He needs to tell this chick to back off because it's obviously upsetting you and he needs to step in. If he doesn't, dump him. You might love him but if he isn't sticking up for you then he's not worth the time, the stress and definitely doesn't deserve your love.

Also, Ambiance is right. Stop dropping the f-bomb.

[how.we.operate.]

First off, if your age is correct, you shouldn't be dropping f-bombs left and right.
Moving on, what should you do? Well if she gets on your nerves, ignore her. She is trying to get a reaction out of you and it works every time.

Your boyfriend...first off if this girl is putting your relationship at risk, one of two things should be done:
1. He shouldn't be friends with the girl-simple, he just shouldn't hang out with her or anything. If she is getting in the middle, then he needs to make a move to remove her from the picture.
2. Break up with the guy-if he is willing to risk your relationship, is he worth it? You two are young...how serious is the relationship? You will find someone else down the road too, so just consider all of this.

My boyfriend's "ex"/a girl he had hooked up with in the past tried to hang out with him to do things. At first he just avoided hanging out, but in time they stopped talking. If he can't learn to keep away, then reconsider if you want to date this guy-it brings drama into play. Also, you need to calm down about things...

[FillingWithHope]

Try not to drop F-bombs so many times. I understand why you are upset. He should be defending your relationship with him, if you haven't already try talking to him about this problem and see what he says. If he doesn't do anything then maybe it isn't the best relationship to be in. For now, just try to be the bigger person and act like what she does doens't bother you at all.