17yrs (M) - 14yrs (F)

[2fast4you]

I have asked this before in another question, but not just this question.
I am 17ys old (Junior HS), and this girl is 14yrs old (Freshmen - extremely mature for her age compared to other freshmen)
The yrs apart are actually less then 3, just barely though... (2yrs and like 9 months)

Now my question is, how weird does this look?
I know some freshmen have dated seniors
(age: Freshmen = 14-15 Senior = 17-18)

Don't give me this half your age plus 7 bs either. Since if you follow that, 14/2+7=14, meaning 14yr olds can only date 14yr olds. So that rule is bs.
This girl and I have a lot in common, and everything and well, I really do like her for her, not because of how she looks.
As for sex, no I don't plan on that happening anytime soon. I have had sex before and it's not nearly as great as people make it out to be, and her I am not sure about (Nor really want to be...)

[Revolution]

I think it's fine, as long as you guys are mature and serious about the relationship. The fact that you are keeping sex out of it is good, since depending on whatever the age of consent is in your state/country, things can get messy very quickly. But just a relationship? There's nothing wrong with it. Just make sure she's comfortable, and don't expect her to act more mature than she is. She's young, you're young. Just have fun.

[FillingWithHope]

I think it is completely fine. As long as you guys have good communication and are mature then go for it. Age is just a number in most cases. Plus Freshman and JUnior isn't that big of a difference at all. IF you were saying maybe an 7th or 6th grader then maybe not the best choice but you guys are both in high school. It is completely fine.

[Maloo]

Just to play the devils advocate, I was in that relationship 17/14, and it totally didn't work out. I was "mature for my age" too.

[Nicole!]

It isn't weird, as long as you two get along well then there is nothing wrong. The only thing is even if she is mature for her age, you two are still at different stages in your life. That can cause complications on your relationship, and I know this firsthand as I am only 16 and my boyfriend is 20.
This doesn't mean that it can't work though. All relationships will have their problems regardless.
But mostly, if you two want to date each other, then I say go for it.

[2fast4you]

Well, where I live (Middle of nowhere...) 14yrs is the age you can start working, driving and other things.

[how.we.operate.]

Ah the age issue. I don't think it is very weird at all to date a girl 3 years younger.
BUT yes, age of consent. Even if you don't plan on sex soon, you should take precautions. Find out what the age of consent is in your state, gain her parent's approval, etc. If things get serious at all, her parents play an important key in your relationship--it is not something to take lightly.

[Bella xx]

I believe it's fine, just make sure you don't break any laws if you're planning to have sex with this girl.

[PSY]

Originally Posted by 2fast4you

Don't give me this half your age plus 7 bs either. Since if you follow that, 14/2+7=14, meaning 14yr olds can only date 14yr olds.

I agree with everyone who is emphasizing the "age of consent" viewpoint. Just to clarify, though, the rule isn't that you can only date people at that age. It means that's the YOUNGEST you should (generally) date someone... so if someone is 14, the idea is that they shouldn't (generally) date anyone who is younger than 14. Which obviously has its flaws, because I don't see anything wrong with a 14-year-old dating a 13-year-old... but you get the idea. If you applied that to your own age (17), you'd get ~15 years old... so while I don't think 14 is TERRIBLE, it does border on the younger side. Age isn't really the deciding factor (well, it is if you want to have a sexual relationship)... rather, maturity and life stage are the deciding factors. You're basically going to be done with college when she's still in high school. Don't you find that a little odd? She may be mature, but that doesn't mean you two won't change over the next 3 or so years. Her interests/needs may change, and vice versa. It's something worth considering.

[2fast4you]

True. I am only a junior though, I still have at a bare minimum another year in High School, plus one year to work to get money so 2 years there. I probably won't go to college for at least 2yrs. By then this girl (should I still be dating her, would be a junior/senior, 17ish years.

[PSY]

Originally Posted by 2fast4you

True. I am only a junior though, I still have at a bare minimum another year in High School, plus one year to work to get money so 2 years there. I probably won't go to college for at least 2yrs. By then this girl (should I still be dating her, would be a junior/senior, 17ish years.

Oops, my apologies! I misread your post and thought you were a senior - my bad. You're right, high school junior and high school freshman isn't as big of a gap, when you take life stages into account.