Help please! I could really use it!

[jazz59]

I'm in what I think it is a complicated situation. I'll try to explain myself as simply as possible.

So, I've been friends with one of my bestfrieds ex-boyfriend for a long time now, they have been separated for over a year already. To tell you the truth I always knew he was a great guy and was kind of attracted to him.

Last couple of weeks we had two parties with some friends, he went to both of them and some kind of weird stuff happened in the second one.

It was last wednesday, we were having a goodbye party for a couple of friends. The night was going on perfect, we had some drinks got drunk danced and everything.
At about 2:30am we all went to sleep and since there was nowhere else, I laid down next to him. He put his arm around me and caressed my arm. that went on for about half hour until neither of us could sleep so we both got up and went outside.

To make things short, we spend the next 3 hours hugging and holding hands occassionally, almost not talking. We then went to sleep, where we slept with our fingers intertwined.

Since then whenever we speak he somehow mentions how he regrets not having kissed me that night, or that I owe him a kiss, and stuff like that.

I just want to know what this all means and if he's interested in me and such. I really like him.

Help, please? <

[Amber]

I think he's interested. Guys usually wouldn't just hold your hand when you're sleeping if they didn't like you. Next time you see him - kiss him. If he brings the kiss up in casual conversation then he's definitely wishing he would have kissed you that night. And don't worry about your friend and what she'll think. I know it's girl code to not date your best friend's ex-boyfriend but honestly it doesn't matter. If they broke up, they broke up for a reason and he's fair game.

[Aletheia*]

I say he's interested. He wouldn't have been doing all those things with you had he not felt some sort of interest for you. Or, some kind of feeling. I'd talk to him about it, and see how he feels. You can never go wrong with telling someone how you feel about them, even if the answer isn't what you want to hear. The worst thing he could say is "No, I don't like you". But, that doesn't mean it's the end of the world.

[Chris.]

YES - he is interested. How do I know? I'm crazy? Nope! I do the same thing to girls. He's teasing you by telling you that you owe him kisses, and that he loves spending time with you and he regrets not kissing you. He cant be more foward about his feelings other than just telling you he likes you!

Go for it! Tell him "Your right - I do! Maybe I can give you what I owe you this weekend?"

Something like that will drive him crazy! Go for it! Flirt back! and start hanging out with him!



Best wishes,
Chris

[Bella xx]

It seems to me that he is interested and you should kiss him if you feel the same way. I know there is some unspoken "girl-code" where you shouldn't date your friends ex's but she had her chance with him and for some reason or another it didnt work out, but at least discuss it with her first before anything happens with this boy. Tell her what you are planning to do and what has already happened, before she finds out from someone else and gets a feeling that you went behind her back. Don't give up on this guy just because your friend doesn't want you dating him though, just inform her that your only discussing it with her because you feel that it's the right thing to do.
Good luck!

[FillingWithHope]

I would say so! Congrats! Guys normally only act like this to get your attention so turn on the flirting meter! Go get him girl!

[Artistic Soul]

It's certain that he is interested. Go and talk to him in a detailed way. That'd help in clearing the misconceptions, if there are any, that is. That's just my opinion, by the way. xx

[jazz59]

thank you so much!! I'll do my best to talk to him, but I think speaking to her would be harder, she's sort of bitchy about some subjects.