Boyfriend pretends his family likes me....

[PaleBlueShine]

I haven't been able to see my boyfriend family based off an event that happened three months ago. I don't want to go into detail =( He got back together with me and we were supposed to go to his familys house for Christmas. I was too nervous and unsettled about what happened to go, so he stayed here.

Basically I've been asking him what his family has said about me. He said they haven't said much. And honestly there is only 2 people in his family I feel comfortable with being around again. He told me his sister talked to him today and he said all they talked about was me going back to school. He said that she was happy for me. I've had a few drinks and was on his phone and read the text messages... I read "Oh, well that might be a good thing for you..." and when he told her that I was happy she said. "Oh well we haven't had a chance to talk about that yet..." He didn't and hasn't told me any of that yet and I wish he didn't have to lie about how his family or at least, sister, feels about me.

I feel like his brother and nephew understand what happened and accept me. But I feel like his Aunt and sister don't and will never accept me.

What do I do?

[Koharuchan]

Since you haven't given us much information, I'm afraid my advice, and probably the advice of others, will be pretty limited. So, try to bear with me.

Whatever you did to upset his family is in the past. If they haven't forgiven you yet, remember that it's only been 3 months since this event occured. It takes some time to regain lost trust, so give them time and space and hopefully after a while they will get over it and move on. Also, when you are around them, be kind and sincere. Try to show them that even though some bad things happened, you still want a relationship with them and want things to work out. This could show them that you are more mature than they may have thought and it could help things heal. You could also ask your boyfriend to talk to them for you, let them know how you feel about the situation. Good luck, I hope things work out.

[Aletheia*]

Since it has only been 3 months since this incident, whatever it may be, it's going to take some time in order for people to learn to trust you again. Again, since I don't know the circumstances under which his family wouldn't be trusting of you, you have to understand that these things take time. While some of his family members are understanding, that doesn't mean that all of his family members need to be accepting too. Give it some time. I'm sure they'll come around eventually.