this may be stupid but it means a lot to me

[cherrypie1996]

I moved county and started at a mixed school for the first time, the boys took an intrest, but I had a boyfriend and I wasn't going to cheat. But all the boys teased me and said I made it up. So I ended up dumping him because long distance was hard. But then this really sweet guy told me he liked me and he said all the right things and when he asked me out I said yes, I was so happy, but then one of my close guy maates started ignoring me.. It made me really sad and I don't know why. He ignored me through my birthday. I thought this was really wrong of him, but I didn't get mad because it's not how I handle those situations. He later told me that he was ignoring me because he didn't want to lose me and that's what one of his mates wanted him to do, he thought that my boyfriend was going to get in the way of our friendship because he said he'd fallen in love with me and couldn't watch me love someone else.. So I slowly ended it with my boyfriend because the other guy meant more to me. But I needed time to get over my relationship, but my mate couldn't wait, this beautiful girl had just moved to our school, she had everything, she was skinny, pretty, perfect. And of course my mate fell for her. And I watched them fall in love with each other, it hurt me so much because I had sacraficed a lot for nothing. I told my mate that he should be with her because I only wanted him to be happy. He then proceeded to tell me I was the one he wanted, but I know she was, they were so happy and I told him to just be with her. He smiled at me and called me his angel.. I slowly moved on, watching them be happy and I found the sweetest guy, he made me feel really good, he made me feel wanted and complete, he had flaws, but I didn't care, I liked him for who he was not what people told me about him, and to today he still treats me right and we're happy. But my mate and his girl broke up after a week and he told me that he wants me and only me. He'd call me up crying telling me he made the biggest mistake of his life. He'd lost the only girl he truly loved. But now, he speaks to me as though I don't do anything for him, as though I never sacrafice anything (he also makes out that because he dumped his gf of a week he's sacraficed everything for me), as though I don't care about him. He wants me to dump my boyfriend for him. He tells me that if I don't I'll lose him. I don't want to lose him, he means so much to me, I've tried everything I could think of, I told him exactly how I felt and how I was happy with my boyfriend. I've told him that I only love him as a friend. But he takes these as betrayals, he acts as though I'm the worst person in the world and I just need some advice on how to fix this... Please help me!

[PSY]

Hello, and welcome to TeenHelp! =)

Many 15-year-olds don't know what they want out of romantic relationships, so it's only natural that teens jump from relationship to relationship. Unfortunately, it sounds like that hasn't really been working out in your favor. The long-distance relationship was understandable (it's hard to maintain one at ANY age), but you left a second, satisfying relationship in order to make your male friend happy. The fact that he didn't wait shows he's content to get anything he can - and that is NOT what YOU want to be - just another girl.

If you truly care about your current boyfriend, stay with him. Don't leave him just because your male friend is guilt-tripping you. Do what makes YOU happy. Trust me, if he stops being your friend because of this, you didn't do anything wrong. It shows an extreme lack of maturity on his part. Your friend may need some time to cool off - after all, no one enjoys being rejected by someone they like - but if he's truly a friend worth having, he'll come back to you after he's had some time to think things through.