Considering asking him to take me back...

[unforgettable00]

So, my ex and I split up about 4 months ago on sept 12th (yes I remember the date lol) I ended it, because he made me make a promise to him that is he ever hurts me (verbally or emotionally) again that ill walk away and leave him.
Well it was a mixture of that and the fact my 'friends' hate his guts. PRESENT tense as in: still do.

How he hurt me: He picked his bestfriend over me... for like the billionth time. That hurt, considering the fact im him girlfriend, I should be at least a priority above his friends... but no, im priority number 3 . priority one being family (i wouldnt ask him to change that. family is number one) and 2 being his friends. Aka His bestfriend.

Anyhow, so after that, we went on for about 2 months without talking, I literally avoid him in the halls. If I see him before he sees me - or even if he sees me- I turn tail and walk the other direction. i even get my friends to check the corners and stair wells before i walk up them just in case hes there with his groupies. Yes, pathetic I know.

Moving on, He cornered me after school while i was walking home and asked me why i was avoiding him in school (Since i was being so nonchalant about it....) and that he was sorry for being an asshole. Alright. Kay. I didnt know how to respond to that. I said "Ive come to terms with your assholeness. Its fine." We kinda walked and he turned and rode off home on his bike.

Besides the whole bestfriend thing, he was a great bf. and I miss him tons. 95% of it was great. its just the 5% that killed it :l I want to start again, but I cant corner him at school (hes with his douchey friends) and he wont answer my calls. So ive settled on a letter type thing which my friend will give him on the last day of classes before exams. and if he isnt there, she'll give it to him on the day of their science exam.

Or should i just leave him be? Its been around 4 months, he might have a gf, he might of moved on. ITS SO STRESSFUL. I cant have a different relationship because I compare them to my ex. I cant even take my dogs for a walk because the neighbor hood has so many memories. I cant get away
And i dont think i want to get away.

If i send the letter, Ill know his feelings on the subject matter. if he says no, then i know i can move on because he doesnt want me anymore. if he says yes,... then i know things wont be the same, and we'll have to talk a few things through. but we could make it.

So my question is:
Should I
A) Leave him be
B) Give him the letter
??

[Aletheia*]

If he kept choosing his friends over you, do you really think that would change if you decided to give him that letter, and you both mutually decided to give things another chance? Yes, he was a great boyfriend, but you said it yourself: Him hanging out with his friends ruined it. HOWEVER, friends ARE important. You can't KEEP him from hanging out with them. Even if you tried, trying would only push him further away.

Honestly, I think you should leave it be. This is my honest opinion, and you don't have to take it but it didn't work out the first time. Who says it's going to work out a second?

[Nicole!]

If the problem that caused you to break up hasn't been fixed, then I don't think the relationship would work a second time. I agree with Shannon, I think its best to just leave it too. If he was always putting you third, then he didn't appreciate you and took you for granted. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you, even if it means making some sacrifices.

For now its common to be comparing other guys to your ex because you still aren't over him. I did the exact same thing when I went through my first breakup. But it does go away as time goes on. You'll slowly be able to see yourself with other guys. Just don't rush it, take the time to move on, and don't talk to him. Cutting off contact will help speed along you getting over him.

[PSY]

In addition to what's already been said, I don't think it's particularly healthy to use a "priority" system when it comes to relationships with family members, friends, and significant others. ALL relationships are important and deserve a person's time and energy. I hate to break it to you, but you can't expect to be "priority #2" in anyone's life. Those "positions" are shared with multiple people - when you're married, you'll share that "position" with your spouse's family members, your children, etc. Stop focusing on how much attention you get in comparison to other people in your partner's life, and focus on the QUALITY of that attention. If you feel neglected, talk about your concerns. Otherwise, accept that your partner is going to have room in his heart for ALL the people in his life - it's not a competition, and you don't have to worry about whether or not you're #1, #2, #3, etc.