Oh, dear gosh. This, again? -_-

[Eldora]

This picture perfectly describes how I feel:



Basically, I broke up with my ex two months ago. Everyone was saying he was a jerk, that he was cheating on me, that I was too sweet for him, et cetera. He was never a jerk to me, I found after we stopped dating that he hadn't been cheating on me, and I discovered that I missed him deeply. I thought I was moving on, but, no.

I tried talking to him over Christmas break, but that attempt failed miserably, due wholly to me. I won't bore you with the details, but I rather rudely told him to leave me alone... But ever since, I have been extremely touchy when the conversation turns to this guy. Among other things...

• I blew up at a girl that is supposed to be my 'friend' (bah!) for talking about him all the time and for not telling me she liked him (she thinks of him as nothing more than a kissing buddy/jerkface, and is a genuine whore in all respects, which pisses me off);
• I told a dude off because he said that my ex had insulted him;
• I drank a whole 18 ounce of Pepsi and rattled about this whole story to my (very unhelpful) aunt;
• I feel so overwhelmingly angry every time anyone calls him a jerk for getting ALC and being a bully (though he is not at all);
• I got signed out yesterday because my that 'friend' from before would not shut up about him in my first block and I had no guts to tell her to do so, and it basically ruined my entire day.

I nearly die every time I see him. My best friend's cousin continues to show interest in me, and there are several other guys that I think might like me, even; but I can't help but ignore them all. I miss my ex like hell. Everything I see reminds me of him. I mope around even though I'd love not to, and the only one who can seem to get me out of my melancholy is my best friend.

This week has sucked because of it. This month has sucked because of it. I don't know what to do.

Last time I talked to my ex, we pretty much... Eh, to put it mildly, we both seemed to still like each other, even though we'd ended on bad terms and hadn't spoken for a month. I'd like to think it's the same thing this time around, and I'd really like to try being friends again. I've taken him for granted, though, and I don't know what to think or do or... I just feel so terrible. -_-

I need to know how to deal with the girl who keeps talking about him in first block. I need to know whether I should try to salvage this guy, or move on; we've already tried dating twice, but each time the timing was just hideous (we started dating both times before or during long, extended vacations), and I don't think I was quite ready for a relationship the last time we dated. But I still catch him looking at me, every time I read out loud in class or something...

Gah, I just don't know what to do.

[Nicole!]

Don't date him again. I just want to say that first off. If you tried dating twice and both times it didn't work out, then it most likely won't work out the third time around. Its best to move on to a relationship that can actually work.
Second, its only been 2 months. So its perfectly normal to still miss your ex. It takes time to get over someone, but the best thing you can do for yourself is to just not talk to him at all. Avoid him if you can too. Cutting off contact always really helps to forget about someone.

Instead of blowing up at the girl who keeps talking about him, just politely ask her to stop because you are trying to get over him and so that makes him a touchy subject. Just try your best to ignore her and she may stop talking.

[PSY]

I agree with Melody - don't date him again. The timing may have been "bad" both times, but the bottom-line is that academic breaks shouldn't destroy a healthy relationship. I doubt things would have been much different, even if you had started dating during the school year. To me, this shows there's something fundamental that's lacking between the two of you, and trying a third time would be pointless.