Relationship Issues.

[needzhelp1010101]

So my boyfriend & I have been dating for about 9-10 months. Earlier in our relationship. About a month into it; I cheated on him. But I can't exactly explain as to why I did it. Because I dont know myself. The only reason I can think of was when I was little I never got the attention I longed for. Talking to guys, or anyone who gives me attention is sort of like an outlet for my depression; but still gives me no reason to of done what I have. I regret every moment of it. We've been doing better now. But still. I don't know what else there Is that I can possibly do. If you think you can help with my situation. I'd be great. I have more to say, but need a little more time to process my thoughts and get them in order.
xoxoxo, thanks!

[Aletheia*]

Does your boyfriend know? If not, I'd tell him. That's the only way to get rid of the guilt you're feeling. If he does know, just let it go. He obviously has forgiven you and there is no reason to dwell on the past.

[needzhelp1010101]

I did tell him. He's known for awhile now. & its just hard to let it go, when he hasn't as well. I mean I've deleted my facebook.. & any number of any guy, besides him and family.

[PSY]

Well, in all fairness, it could take your boyfriend a while to forgive you. Deleting your Facebook account and phone numbers of people you know won't fix that. It's going to take time - and to be quite frank, there's always the chance your boyfriend will never be able to fully forgive you. You may want to ask yourself how long you're willing to wait for that to happen.

On a side note, I don't really agree with deleting your Facebook account and phone numbers. Yes, you cheated, and yes, you need to demonstrate that you won't do it again - but all this shows your boyfriend (and yourself) is that you can't be trusted. It implies that you can't control yourself if you're in contact with other people, and that simply isn't true. You CAN control yourself! You may not have had a solid "reason" for cheating, but you were able to make a choice, and you chose to cheat. If you are truly out of control, then you need to end the relationship and seek professional help for your depression, insecurities, etc. Running away from other people certainly won't solve your problem in the long-term.