breaking them up

[MichWolverineFreak]

yeah recently the girl i like has completely shut me out of the world because her boyfriends a frickin slavedriver so anyway, im gonna get my friend who goes to their school to put panties in his locker with a note that says happy two month anniversary! ps both tests came back negative. along with some other stuff anyway, i have no clue how to get the panties. i did convince my friend to give me hers, almost, but she said shes had her period in all of them. so how do i get the panties?? i cant drive alone, i have no sisters, and my moms a prayer away from becoming a nun.
btw... im not being a jerk. this guy literrally tried to get me to kill myself because i go to a 'rich kids' school and he hates everything about me anyway. im doing her a favor. shes so whipped the marks will be on her ass for years.

[Aletheia*]

I honestly don't think this is the best way to win the girl back. If she finds out it was YOU who put those panties in his locker, it isn't going to go over very well. And, think about how much this is going to HURT her. Being cheated on isn't something you make into a joke, even if it isn't true. It's not fair to HER that you're doing this. We need to let people make their own decisions about their lives and relationships. I highly doubt anyone is going to condone you doing this, at least not here at TeenHelp. I highly suggest you rethink your actions before they blow up in your face.

[MichWolverineFreak]

this has no way of blowing up in my face. and i really care about her feelings, i really do, and im gonna be there for her. ill feel guilty, sure, but this guy is EVIL. hes gonna hurt her when it really counts. plus... ive got nothin to lose, ive always wanted to commit suicide because were apart too much. selfishness aside, i think my feelings should matter here too.

[Aletheia*]

Of course your feelings matter, but her do too. If you truly care about her feelings, you should not go through with this plan. It's unfair for you since this might not even win her back, so you went through all those efforts for nothing. Just because she sees panties in his locker doesn't necessarily mean she's going to leave him. They make talk it out, he says he doesn't do it, and she takes him back. OR, she gets SUPER hurt in the process and doesn't want to be with anyone else for a long, long time. It has a 50/50 chance of working out in your favor, and if she's truly "whipped" as you say, I highly doubt it will work in your favor at all. So, what would be the point of trying if nothing is going to work? I really do suggest that you rethink this. Instead of trying to ruin something for her, talk to her. She needs to LEARN these things on her own. If she gets hurt in that process, it's a learning experience. And, I'm not saying this to be mean about it, but it's the truth. She needs to learn things on her own in order to make it in the real world. She can't have people come to her rescue all the time.

[PSY]

I agree with Shannon. This isn't the way to "liberate" your friend. If she sees those panties (because there's no guarantee she even will - her boyfriend may hide them before she has a chance to walk by his locker), it will just add more hurt to her already existing hurt. It may be the final straw for her and prompt the break-up... OR, because she's so "whipped," she may not do anything at all, except feel hurt. Believe it or not, there are PLENTY of people who would stay with an abusive partner, even if they met the "other man/woman" in person! There is NO guarantee that your plan will work in both your AND HER favor. Doing this would be misguided and selfish on your part. The guilt you would be feeling afterward would be justified, because there is simply no way you can justify hurting a friend in this way.

If you truly care about her, talk to her... and keep talking to her. Ask her friends to join you and talk to her. Tell her parents, her teachers, the school counselor, the principal, etc. about the abuse. She may not listen, or she may listen (but not feel ready to break the cycle of abuse), or she may listen AND take action IF she sees that several of her loved ones are rallying behind her, supporting her and urging her to do what's in her best interests. Tricks like these won't achieve those results, and may even have the opposite effect. She may feel like she can't trust anyone - except for her boyfriend. It'll only make her feel even more dependent on him for what little happiness she has.

[dr2005]

As Shannon and Robin both say, this isn't the way to go about things at all. It could work as you envisage, but more likely it won't and will only make her feel worse in the long run. Also, if you do actually end up together in the longer term then it's hardly a good idea to have it start based on an act of deception. The best thing you can do, as has been said, is talk to her and get others to talk to her as well so she can see the situation for what it is. After that, you have to let her work her way through it, and accept that she may well end up being hurt in spite of your efforts. As Shannon says, unfortunately it's part of the learning process and while that doesn't make it any easier you have to accept it for what it is. Trying to rig the outcome is a surefire way to failure, and will most likely only result in you losing this girl completely should she find out what happened. Just try to support her as best you can, and you may find that has more effect on its own than any tricks you might think of playing.

[LittleKim]

Originally Posted by MichWolverineFreak

yeah recently the girl i like has completely shut me out of the world because her boyfriends a frickin slavedriver so anyway, im gonna get my friend who goes to their school to put panties in his locker with a note that says happy two month anniversary! ps both tests came back negative. along with some other stuff anyway, i have no clue how to get the panties. i did convince my friend to give me hers, almost, but she said shes had her period in all of them. so how do i get the panties?? i cant drive alone, i have no sisters, and my moms a prayer away from becoming a nun.
btw... im not being a jerk. this guy literrally tried to get me to kill myself because i go to a 'rich kids' school and he hates everything about me anyway. im doing her a favor. shes so whipped the marks will be on her ass for years.

I'm sorry to say that but as far as I'm concerned any kind of notes are kinda scarry to me

I'm sorry I just mean you're gonna scare her and it won't help reconciliate

[Pelios]

I'm pretty sure you can just find about anything in Ebay try that.

[MichWolverineFreak]

you know what... i honestly dont think i care anymore. they both nearly killed me, and i see no reason to give a shit about this anymore. it might only be temporary, but i think im moving on,FINALLY. so full steam ahead to my next huge embarrasing failure, Mckenzie!! well, maybe.