So?

[yourworstmistake]

Feelin' really rather bad at the moment.
This week has been really rather bad.
Just been down, 'cause when I'm near my period I get quite down and well this month it was worse than usual 'cause it just was I guess.

So Wednesday was the 3rd month anniversary and my boyfriend didn't so much as text me, and he hasn't at all, until tonight when I text him 'cause he made a status I thought was about me.

But it's like why should I always start texting him? And it's like I feel I make so much more effort than him.

Also I feel like we are dating, but we aren't friends, not really.

To be honest earlier today when talking to my friend, I'd decidesd I was going to break up with him, but now I feel like it's too mean, and I can't hurt him, because it's bad. I know I am pretty much completely apathetic a lot at the moment but towards him it's a lot.

But earlier I was so decdided and now when I text him it's like I can't hurt him because from a past breakup I was made to feel the person's personal problems were my fault and I caused all kind of bad things to happen to them.

What I was going to do was talk to him and say I dont feel like we are friends and I dont see the point of a relationship like that. And that we should be friends and if anything happens it happens.

I don't know what to do? Because I had decided that when we broke up I would be able to be a bit crazy and just be myself and be happy and not worry what people say.

:/

God, I'm so confused, but whatever I do I know I'm going to regret it, because I think if I stay in this relationship I'm going to keep feeling worse and worse and maybe just flip.

[PSY]

Hey, I'm a bit confused by this post... so I'm just going to emphasize the importance of communication. If you feel like you're making more of an effort than your boyfriend is, tell him! Maybe he just doesn't like texting - if that's the case, ask him to call you or contact you first in some other way. It doesn't have to be 50/50, but I'm sure you'd appreciate it if he made the effort every now and then.

If you feel like you're just "lovers" and not really "friends," then that's something else you need to discuss with him. Does it mean you need to break up with him? Not necessarily. Many couples need to find the right balance between romantic stuff and platonic stuff early on in their relationships.

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by yourworstmistake

So Wednesday was the 3rd month anniversary and my boyfriend didn't so much as text me, and he hasn't at all, until tonight when I text him 'cause he made a status I thought was about me.

You need to talk to him about this. Let him know that it upset you that he didn't even speak to you on your anniversary, and let him know that its something you want to be special between you two.

Originally Posted by yourworstmistake

To be honest earlier today when talking to my friend, I'd decidesd I was going to break up with him, but now I feel like it's too mean, and I can't hurt him, because it's bad. I know I am pretty much completely apathetic a lot at the moment but towards him it's a lot.

Don't worry about it being too mean. If a breakup is what you want, and you don't want to be with the person anymore, then break up with them. Breakups will always hurt, but sometimes they are necessary and you have to just go through with it.

Originally Posted by yourworstmistake

But earlier I was so decdided and now when I text him it's like I can't hurt him because from a past breakup I was made to feel the person's personal problems were my fault and I caused all kind of bad things to happen to them.

This last person made a mistake by making you feel bad, but that doesn't mean your current boyfriend will do the same. He is barely even speaking to you from what you've said, so I don't think he will handle it as poor as this last guy.

Originally Posted by yourworstmistake

What I was going to do was talk to him and say I dont feel like we are friends and I dont see the point of a relationship like that. And that we should be friends and if anything happens it happens.

I don't know what to do? Because I had decided that when we broke up I would be able to be a bit crazy and just be myself and be happy and not worry what people say.

:/

God, I'm so confused, but whatever I do I know I'm going to regret it, because I think if I stay in this relationship I'm going to keep feeling worse and worse and maybe just flip.

I think it is best to talk to him first, before you go and break up with him. Tell him exactly how you feel, that you don't have a friend base to your relationship, and you don't feel you are as close as you should be. If things don't change, then it would be best to break up and move on to something better.