too attached and hurt

[HayleeBoo]

I've been talking to this guy thats a bit older than me and yes i like him a lot. One minute he's really nice and flirty but then the next he just freaks out. He was telling me a bunch of things like that he really likes me and more and then last weekend he said he had sex with another girl and that he's dating her now. My friends keep telling me to stop talking to him, but he acts as if it never happened for like an hour then starts talking about her and i get all depressed from it then he freaks out. He calls me useless and that I can't offer him anything and that I'm a stupid little B____... It makes me feel really bad about myself. But then the next morning he'll be super sweet and then turn all evil by like 1pm. I'm really attached to him and it's hard to stop talking to him.... I don't really know what to do anymore. It just feels right and perfect being with him. I don't exactly think I was supposed to be born but I'm here and he said it himself that it feels like we were... I don't know, meant to be and that I was basically put here to love him. How can I though if he's with someone else now? He knows everything about me and I know just about everything about him, I really don't want to lose him, but I can't even read a text without feeling hurt. I'm completely lost with out him and I'm so confused on what to do now...

[PSY]

He says, "We were meant to be together."
He thinks, "I can do whatever I want with this girl."

Honey, I hate to say it... but he's abusive, and you need to break the cycle. He's not going to change his ways, and frankly, he doesn't love you. You are here, you are alive, and it's definitely for a reason... but it's NOT so you can be abused. It's so you can find a higher purpose in life, a way to make a positive impact on the people around you. This guy is just keeping you from achieving that higher purpose.

It sounds like you have some amazingly supportive friends who feel the same way I do. Rely on them. Ask them to hold you accountable, to discourage you when you say you want to call this guy. When you're feeling tempted, call your friends and ask if you can hang out until the urge passes. I assure you, it WILL get easier with time... but it's going to be hard at first. You'll want to go back to your old ways, to what's familiar and comfortable. Your hard work will pay off in the end, though, and you'll be amazed that you ever allowed yourself to be associated with this guy in the first place!

[iwannabeme]

hey you dont deserve that and he doesnt deserve your pain and tears ! any guy that is willing to say he likes u and make u feel important should always be nice to you and always make yoh feel important and if ge camt do that then hes just not the right guy , you have your whole life to find a guythat loves you and wont treat you the way this guy does <3
hope this helps <3
keep strong
-samantha<3

[Nicole!]

I completely agree with Robin. It sounds like he just wants your attention, and when he starts talking to his girlfriend he doesn't need you anymore. If he is calling you worthless and a bitch, then you need to just end it. Are those few hours of sweetness worth the abusiveness the rest of the day? You deserve a guy who will treat you right all the time.
The fact that he flirts when he already has a girlfriend says a lot too. Remember that he is taken, and it doesn't sound like he is going to break up with her for you. So just stop talking to him, delete his number and ignore him.