Non-PG13 (Strong Language): Am i wrong?

[reaper5643]

Ok, tell me if i was wrong. i broke up with my ex for hiding stuff behind my back. then waited two days and started dating her friend. And every1 says its fucked up. and they all call me a player. i hate that term. i wont pretend to be 1. i wont say i am 1. thats just not me. i mean, i could see a problem if i broke up with her for her friend but no, i didn't. i mean, this girl really makes me happy, like no other girl has b4. and honestly, i don't give 2 fucks wat they all say. but, seriously, was i wrong?

[PSY]

It's not "wrong"... but you can't exactly blame people for questioning the sequence of events and your motives behind breaking up with your ex/getting together with her friend. Most people need a liiiittle more than 2 days to get over an ex. The fact that you 1) moved on very quickly, and 2) started dating your ex's friend, is definitely going to raise some eyebrows. If anyone gives you a hard time, I would calmly tell them that what happened between you and your ex, and what is happening now between you and your current girlfriend, is a private matter. Chewing them out or denying you're a player will probably just confirm their suspicions and encourage them to continue talking about the sequence of events.

[Koharuchan]

I agree with Robin. You started dating her friend after only 2 days, and most people take longer than that to get over a relationship. Most people wait at least a couple weeks, plus add that she's your ex's friend and there are going to be suspicions from the people around you. As Robin said, explain the situation and try not to let them get to you. If this girl really makes you happy, stay with her and don't let others get you down.

[Aletheia*]

In my eyes, it's only wrong because you started dating her friend. If it had been someone else, like a girl she didn't know or didn't know very well, it'd be a different story. I say this only because dating an ex's friend is basically asking for trouble. And, on top of that, it was only 2 days after you broke up with the other girl. That's not the biggest issue, but I'm sure it's such a blow to your ex-girlfriend for many reasons: A. You dumped her, then 2 days later began dating again and B. You began dating her friend. Though you have broken up with her, you still should have considered her feelings, and her friend (your current girlfriend) is just as guilty as you are. I don't think the term "player" was used in the right way here. You can't blame others for having an opinion, especially when the situation isn't ideal. They are only expressing how they feel, but the word "player" was used in the wrong way. I don't think you're a player. You would be if you had been seeing her friend behind her back during the relationship, or dumped her for her friend. You said yourself that wasn't the reason at all.