break ups???

[iwannabeme]

How do you break up with a guy for another guy after being with him for so long, and feeling so attatched to him still? Hes not a good infuence on me in school , hes a 16 year old goin on 17 year old sophmore and im 14 . He failed freshman year. He refuses to do his work because he says whats the point if i already know this. He is a big influence when i need to go to mytutoring and he wants to hang instead and i end up ditching to be with him because im a very easy person to guilt, and he always guilts me whenever i wanna break up or when i dont want to do somehting. I want to go back with my ex angel, he lets me be ME and doesnt judge me, but my bf hates him with a passion and im afraid ill lose my bf for good if we break up. I dont know what to do or who to choose because i reallllllllyyyyy want to date my ex. I just dont know how to tell my bf.....

[Amberpamber]

You need to be point blank with him. As you stated he's a bad influence on you, even if you totally loose him for now that may in turn be a good thing. If he really cares about you he'll open his eyes and realize that he needs to change his ways.

[BethGoesRawr]

I think you should tell him that you need a break for a little while to get your thoughts straight.
After one or two weeks if you still want to leave him for the other guy then go for it, but otherwise go back to him if you really want to.......or don't go with either of them and enjoy being single for a while

[PSY]

Out of curiosity, did you happen to see my response to yesterday's thread regarding this issue?

Originally Posted by iwannabeme

i have been with my bf since september 13 th 2011 ... but before we broke up twice and i dated a guy named agel in between break ups. i love angel so much yes im 14 but he knew me.so well he KNOWS ME SO WELL he always makes me happy amd never jidges me bit on the other hand my boyfriend i love him too..
he makes me happy most of the time ots just he does deep with me we made ALOT of promises to each other and theyre promises like i promise well be together forwver and we prpmise on our lives and i never break a promise but i regtet mking that promise because im never going tget over my ex angel he sid he made a mistake by breaking up woth mehe said that he did it because a friend told him i had a back up guy and that i didnt love him and he broke upwith me because he disnt deserve it bt he found out that that friend didnt like me and angel felt bad i really miss him bt i cant get myself to leave my boyfriend what do i do????

Originally Posted by PSY

Hey there! Two things:

1. A lot of people are going to be upset about your use of the word "love." It's not possible to completely and truly love two people at the same time - not in the romantic sense, anyway. If you claim you "love" two people, then I'd have to say you don't really love either of them. Sorry.

2. You're right - 14 is way too young to make promises about being together "forever." You and your current boyfriend will change drastically over the next couple of years. You may grow together, or you may grow apart. There's no way to know, unfortunately, and that's why making promises of this nature isn't the wisest thing to do. With that being said, there's nothing wrong with breaking this "promise," because it never could have been made to begin with.

My advice? Take a break from dating. There's no reason to stay with your current boyfriend if you don't love him and aren't over your ex-boyfriend. Maybe something will work out in the future with one of these boys... but for now, you need to spend some time reflecting upon everything you've learned, so that you can avoid complications like these in the future.

[SamMarie]

First off, I wouldn't let this guy control you. You are probably a great girl who doesn't deserve this. Are you going to let every guy you're with control your heart? Your heart is still young and needs the space from this guy to experience bigger and better things. Besides, you are stronger than him. Do not even think for one second that you can't do anything because you CAN. Truthfully, he's just one of those nasty experiences you'll learn to overcome. I don't see a wedding ring on your finger, so, I don't believe he owns you. Do what you feel is right not what he feels is right. Take a break from relationships in general. Learn more about yourself first. Good luck!