Non-PG13 (Strong Language): liar. what do i do?

[CutewitouttheE14]

okay so today i was with two of my friends when my supposed girlfriend texts me and says whatcha doin, i said nothing you. she said nothing at home my bro has my car, so my reply was ill come get you she said nahh....then driving through my town i see her car at my bestfriends house, called her and confronted her. she started stumbling on her words and hung up so i called back said fuck you im done. and then she didn have the balls to talk to me she had her sister do it, her sister claims im controlling, i used her, and i do it to everyone.......im the type of guy that gives a million chances and lets people do as they please. i then asked her to stop and asked for my ex (at the time, still is) and she said no she doesnt wanna talk so then she started bitchhing that i was mad at my friend for nothing. he lied to me and ignored my phone calls.......when i asked to chill....... what do i do?

[Chris.]

Well, remember, this can go either way.

I think that you should wait a few days, and text her or call her and see what she has to say. Because in all honesty, I bet most of the users on here will say to move on - but we don't know FORSURE that she cheated - she could have just been hanging out there. And yes, a male and a female can be 'just friends'. You said you give millions of chances - might as well see what she has to say for herself.

If she tells you she cheated, or doesn't answer your call, or anything like that - then its time to just move on - because obviously she didn't like you as much as you liked her and the relationship went sour. Don't kick yourself in the butt about it - sometimes relationships fail, and sometimes things go wrong - but we learn to move on and try it again with someone new.



Best wishes,
Chris

[CutewitouttheE14]

Originally Posted by chrisjackson911

Well, remember, this can go either way.

I think that you should wait a few days, and text her or call her and see what she has to say. Because in all honesty, I bet most of the users on here will say to move on - but we don't know FORSURE that she cheated - she could have just been hanging out there. And yes, a male and a female can be 'just friends'. You said you give millions of chances - might as well see what she has to say for herself.

If she tells you she cheated, or doesn't answer your call, or anything like that - then its time to just move on - because obviously she didn't like you as much as you liked her and the relationship went sour. Don't kick yourself in the butt about it - sometimes relationships fail, and sometimes things go wrong - but we learn to move on and try it again with someone new.



Best wishes,
Chris

well he is gay, but the part that got me is she cant even be honest with me....why should i be honest with her so i told her straight up im not playing mind games im done. and delteted everything she ever said and her # and her facebook. but idk if i shoulda did that

[Chris.]

Now, with the new information you just gave me about him being gay - I don't think you should have 100% deleted her out of your life.

I would do like I said - send her a FB message, or a text, or anything and try to communicate. But if she doesn't communicate back (or does it negatively), then I would just move on.

The only reason why I'm saying contact her in a few days is because often relationships end due to stupid mis-communications (or lack of communication). It cant hurt to try to contact her - so you might as well give it a shot in a few days; and feel free to let me know how it goes so we can go from there.

[CutewitouttheE14]

Originally Posted by chrisjackson911

Now, with the new information you just gave me about him being gay - I don't think you should have 100% deleted her out of your life.

I would do like I said - send her a FB message, or a text, or anything and try to communicate. But if she doesn't communicate back (or does it negatively), then I would just move on.

The only reason why I'm saying contact her in a few days is because often relationships end due to stupid mis-communications (or lack of communication). It cant hurt to try to contact her - so you might as well give it a shot in a few days; and feel free to let me know how it goes so we can go from there.

pm me and ill tell u what she said to me.

[Smitten]

There really is no excuse for this kind of blatant lie - she just as easily could have told you she was at her friends house and she would see you another time. Deception in a relationship only leads to it's destruction.