would a girl look desperate if she convince a guy she doesn't want just sex?

[plzhelp12]

If you gave a guy his space and you been knowing him for almost 10 years if you made a horrible mistake last year being around the wrong ppl. Now he sees u as a sex person how would you try to convince him to give you back all the good times you both had and that you don't want just sex? ( Good side)

[green_gangsta]

Originally Posted by plzhelp12

If you gave a guy his space and you been knowing him for almost 10 years if you made a horrible mistake last year being around the wrong ppl. Now he sees u as a sex person how would you try to convince him to give you back all the good times you both had and that you don't want just sex? ( Good side)

Trust has to be earned, you can't convince people to trust you, it takes time. It also depends on what kind of guy he is. Some guys give you one chance, and if you blow it, then you're done for life. Others will forgive you no matter what you do. Take it as slow as possible, talk... don't just jump in, or he will definitely think you only want him for sex.

[plzhelp12]

Thank you! What would you say if you were in my shoes starting off the convo on the phone? I'm still lost at words because the situatiom is hard because of my dumb mistake last year

[green_gangsta]

If i where you, I wouldn't start on the phone... Maybe just a "hey, whats up?" on FB or a text. just small talk, don't get angry or anything just play it cool... after 2 or three convo's, if he still didn't ask you to hang out to catch up, then wait till the conversation kinda steers into that sort of direction and you'll feel it. When the time is right to ask him to hang out, you'll feel like its what you both want. be interested but remain your own person. Don't be interested in him to the point where you want to mold yourself to fit with him. Don't change because he says something you don't agree with, and be your regular confident self!

Be brutally honest with yourself if it doesn't fit, because when you really like someone, it can cloud your judgement. Make a list of maybe 1-3 traits that you MUST have from a relationship in order to be happy in it, like honesty, good morals, motivation to pursue his own goals,...

A relationship means you want someone to bear witness to your life, and you want to witness their life. You DON'T change yourself to be with a person. Its a mutual respect, and it's someone you share strong feelings for. Communication is the key.