Ex trouble.

[Meg-56]

So... I split up with my boyfriend a few months ago for things like him texting other girls and when asked, lying about it. Lying about things in general... Not showing much effort or care. I suppose, just not showing much emotion. But when he did show it, it was the best! I was so in love with him, and after being in denial for a while, i'm starting to realise i clearly still am.

When i split with him, he seemed to care at first but then...nothing. No texts, no turning up at my house to see me, nothing. So obviously i started missing him, texting him, wanting to see him. A few times he would get in touch (when he wanted something) and i thought he started to miss me. Each time we'd text, he'd pick me up, i'd go to his, spend the night etc. He would treat me like we were together, kissing and caring, the usual i guess. Then the next day that would be it. This happened quite a lot and every time i would be upset again, missing him...just a vicious circle.

I'm still in contact with him and if i'm honest, i saw him last week. I went to his house to upload some photos from his laptop of old memories for me. Nothing happened except a few kisses but i ended up sleeping over and going home in the morning. We text a few times but he has now gone back to the old, not texting back often... he will just reply to me when he feels like it i suppose. Yesterday we were talking about something personal...
I said
'i need to talk to you'
he said
'what about?'
i said
'can you guess without making me embarrass myself even more?'
he said
'wanting me back? i dunno!'

This kinda makes me think that he has been thinking about it. he said he couldnt text at work so i asked him to tell me what his reply would have been if i said i wanted him back when he finished work. he never replied but later that night he text saying his phone had died. I text him again today and he text back saying his phone is broken and his battery is draining. he still hasnt replied so im wondering if he has said that comment because he knows it will get to me and i will be thinking about it.

Maybe he does miss me sometimes but knows we didnt work together... or maybe its just all a game and likes having me there, holding on, as a back up.

What do you guys think???

[PSY]

It seems like he enjoys the attention, but he's not interested in having a relationship with you. That leaves you with two options: settle for the kind of "relationship" he wants (aka "friends with benefits"), or put your foot down and make a genuine effort to move on. That may involve minimizing or ceasing contact with him for a few weeks/months... otherwise, you may be tempted to spend the night with him, even though you know nothing will come of it in the long run. Keeping in touch could also slow down the healing process... you need time to be alone with your thoughts, to really reflect upon the relationship and how you can avoid the same problems the next time (for example, knowing what the "warning signs" are for an inattentive/non-emotionally invested boyfriend). After you've had time to truly move on, you may be able to resume your friendship with him; however, it's important to not rush the process. If you feel that you're getting sucked back into the cycle once again, be strong enough to minimize or cease contact again until you can handle having him in your life.

[Meg-56]

Thank you very much...
This is kinda what i already knew but i think i needed to hear it from someone else. x