What does it mean when a guy acts like this?

[Dontdomornings92]

My best guy friend (who has a serious gf) he give me a lot of what I feel like are mixed signals. Whenever we hang out he makes inappropriate comments.

For example the one we were hanging out and at one point i accidentally turned my kindle on so I said I didn't mean to turn you on, and then turned to him and as a joke said, not you. then he says thats because you have clothes on. I mean it was a joke, but still...

Another example is one night we were talking about how I need a boyfriend and he suggested as a joke that I should wear slutty clothes. Then i told him he'd totally like that, and as a joke he said you caught me. I get that these are jokes, but I feel like there is a hint of seriousness in them.

Before he started dating his gf i told him i liked him and we went out once, then we just stayed friends. But he once and a while will ask me if I still like him. So one night I asked him the same question, and he wouldn't just answer it, he just kept changing the subject like it made him feel really uncomfortable.

I mean, I know that these are jokes, but I know him, and he wouldn't even consider making jokes like those to girls he hates. And then after every joke like that he then makes some comment about how his girl friends hot, or has a nice body or something.

So what does it mean that he acts like this to me?

Btw. Hes 21 and I'm 19 and we've been friends for a few years now.

[PSY]

What makes you think he's being somewhat serious with his joking? I mean, based on the two examples you gave, he's just playing along with whatever you're saying.

My guess is that he didn't answer you the last time because he wants to be loyal to his girlfriend. In his mind, it's okay to make sexual jokes when you initiate... but he might not feel it's okay for HIM to initiate, because that would be seen as unfaithful. That could also be why he makes it a point to talk about how hot his girlfriend is. It's a subtle way of saying, "Don't take any of this too seriously... see? Look at how much I like my girlfriend!"

Of course, there could be more going on here than what you told us... but based on this thread alone, I'm going to say that he's not interested (at least, not interested enough to leave his girlfriend), and you may even be imagining that there's more to this than there really is. It's easy to misinterpret body language and find "hidden meanings" in words when we think someone likes us.

[Aletheia*]

I completely agree with Robin on this one.

From the examples that you've provided, these "sexual" jokes have all been initiated by something you've said. Such as the "You'd like that" comment to the slutty clothes comment he made. He's just playing along by what YOU said, not by something he said.

It sounds like he's just comfortable with you as a friend. I'm in a serious relationship, and so are most of my guy friends, but we still make jokes like this with each other. For me AND them, there is no hidden meaning behind it, and we're just doing it for fun and for laughs. I think this is what he's doing or trying to do with you.

[Chair]

[Edited] Poor guy's just playing along, even if you said those things to a girl she would probably respond the same way.

[ANBUxAssassin]

Originally Posted by Chair

[Edited] Poor guy's just playing along, even if you said those things to a girl she would probably respond the same way.

What your saying not true she still like him and he still like her but if he says yes to it the he will feel guilt and he does not want to so he changes the subject so he can void that question i know because i always change the subject so i can void answer but it does not work with my gf. i have seen people joke around like that and there not dating and they share no feeling for each other.

[Lu82]

I agree with all of the above.