Falling outta "love"...Or so I thought?

[The Devil's Advocate ??]

Can't stay in it :I love, that is. Everytime I date someone, it goes great for a while, then what do you know, SHABAM! Thats the sound of me falling out of love. Well, sort of. I still love who I'm with, I'd just rather put them on the backburner so I can ignite the flames between me and another.

Last guy I was with, I ran around behind his back constantly in the last month of the relationship(was faithful the rest of the time). Before him I'd just have the courtesy to break up first).

This time around, the other object of my affection has the thing that my entire relationship I have now has been missing...that notion that just "feels right". I'm not ready to lose my love, but I can't take the heartache of that missing piece...

[Amber]

Here's an idea.. maybe it would be a good idea for you to stay single. This way you can flirt with and date whoever you want, whenever you want. You can play the field and just go with it. Then you can find what you want in a relationship and who you want the relationship with. Everyone has different stages and types of love but when it's TRUE you'll know. This way you won't be unfaithful to a boyfriend and you'll know when you know.

[SamMarie]

I think to simply put it, you just haven't found the right person for you yet. That happens to lots of people more common than not. Truth of the matter is you're going to date lots of people that you won't completely "click" with. It happens to all of us. Maybe you're being close minded with the guys that you pick. Whatever it is, I agree with flirting around and not settle into any serious relationship yet until you feel completely committed. Don't dive right into it. Then ask yourself if you can see this guy in your life standing by you when that time comes. What makes you two different from the rest of the guys you've been with? Good luck!

[PSY]

Something else worth mentioning is that EVERYONE goes through phases where they don't feel "as in love." The first time is generally when the "honeymoon phase" ends - the contrast is so startling that you wonder if you've fallen out of love completely! After a few days or a week, though, you generally find that connection again... only to discover it seems weaker a few weeks later. This back-and-forth can go on for a while, and it might not mean that it's time to give up on a relationship. Sometimes, it's an indication that you're beginning to see past the lovey-dovey stuff and see your partner for who they really are - a flawed person, just like yourself. That can be scary and unpleasant at first! If you stick with it, though, you'll be able to figure out if you've truly fallen out of love, or if you're really meant to be together. You'll either grow together, or grow apart.

[niente_]

Originally Posted by The Devil's Advocate ??

Can't stay in it :I love, that is. Everytime I date someone, it goes great for a while, then what do you know, SHABAM! Thats the sound of me falling out of love. Well, sort of. I still love who I'm with, I'd just rather put them on the backburner so I can ignite the flames between me and another.

Snap....

Though I'm glad Robin gave advice on this ... I have recently been wondering why I'm not into my boyfriend like I was a few months back ... I guess the honeymood phase is over!! And now I think he's a total jerk! haha But seriously I understand how you feel ... it's rather frustrating, how are you supposed to know if you truly love someone if one minute you're interested and the next you're not ...

My approach is to go with it, and stick together. Unless you start to really doubt how you feel, like over a long period of time. Or if your partner suspects, because if they can tell somethings wrong, then that's not good and it's unfair on them. End it before you become unfaithful. Then you are free to play the field. Or stick with them and be faithful to them. But it's an either/or situation. Stick with it and do it properly, or leave them.