Between a rock..

[Brillyx]

Don't mind the title it's from a game lol.

Any who, I need some advice on the current situation I am in.

I was originally going to start dating this one girl that goes to another school, but then I started disliking her personality more and more, and eventually I just said I'd like to stay friends. Unfortunately I had asked her to go to a dance before I told her this, so I still have to go with her.

Well the dance was supposed to be January 21, but it was postponed ALL the way to February 19th due to weather.

Now normally I don't care, however, I have already started talking to this other girl who I know for a fact likes me, and I like her, and I've never been in a relationship before. I have been rejected 2 times before, so you can understand how dire this is.

But if I ask her out and start dating her before the dance, then I will make things awkward when at the dance. But if I wait all the way to February 19th, this girl I want to ask out may not be interested anymore.

What should I do?

[esfdhtfy]

I really don't see why you'd want to go to the dance with Girl A when the dance is literally a month after its expected date. If I were you, I'd (kindly) explain to Girl A that you are interested in somebody else and would like to take her to the dance instead (or whatever the truth is).

As a girl, I don't feel that you have an obligation to her, really - unless it is a big dance like prom or something. If it's merely a school dance, tell Girl A the truth about Girl B and go from there.

[Nicole!]

I agree with the above poster. I would just straight out tell girl A that you have found someone else and you want to cancel your plans of going together. The good news is she will have some time to find another date, and you can move on to girl B.
If you told girl A that you just wanted to be friends, then you don't necessarily have to go to the dance with her.

[Brillyx]

You don't understand, maybe I was a bit too vague in the post. Girl A has already gotten a dress, get-up, everything for the dance. Even if we are just going as friends, I cant just ditch her now. And I asked her waaay before the date for this dance. Like 2 months in advance. She has made too much of a commitment for me to just back out on her now. Hell, she even rejected a bunch of other guys for her school's dance just to go with me to this one.... I really am in a rut...

[Nicole!]

Well you could just go as friends? If you can't back out now then there isn't really anything else you can do except go as friends. Make sure that she knows this too.

[Brillyx]

That's not the problem though... We already ARE going as friends

[lanoyo]

then what exactly is the problem

[Nicole!]

I'm a little confused now as well. What exactly do you need advice about? If you're just going as friends, then she won't expect anything from you so after the dance you don't necessarily have to be with her anymore, and you can go date the other girl.

[Brillyx]

But do you think it'd be awkward if I was dating the other girl while going as friends? Like for example me and this other girl would both be at the dance, she would be with her friend date and I with mine, but we'd be in a relationship at that point of time. Would that/could that work?

[Nicole!]

If you told her about the situation and both girls understand, then it could work. Sure, it would be a little weird, but it would be early in the relationship so it wouldn't be as bad as if it were with a long-time girlfriend.

[Brillyx]

If I told which girl? And yeah I think your right since we woulden't have been going out for too long

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Brillyx

If I told which girl? And yeah I think your right since we woulden't have been going out for too long

Don't you have to tell them both. If you're gonna make a move on B and not go back on your word to A, the shouldn't you explain all of this to B sooner rather than later. You may even score some early points for keeping your commitment to A, shows you're a loyal friend and stuff.

It's a mess any way you look at it, so honesty is probably your best bet for a good outcome.

[Brillyx]

Do you think Girl A would be pissed though?

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Brillyx

Do you think Girl A would be pissed though?

Dude if girl A is the girl that bought all the sh*t to go to the dance, and you're still taking her so you don't leave her hangin..she ain't got sh*t to be pissed about. You are going above and beyond here IMO. I wouldn't give a crap is she was pissed, shows she doesn't have a clue to me.

[Brillyx]

Lol yes exactly. Thanks for all the help guys, I think I know what I'm gonna do now

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by Shawn K.

Don't you have to tell them both. If you're gonna make a move on B and not go back on your word to A, the shouldn't you explain all of this to B sooner rather than later. You may even score some early points for keeping your commitment to A, shows you're a loyal friend and stuff.

It's a mess any way you look at it, so honesty is probably your best bet for a good outcome.

Yeah I meant both too, sorry for the confusion
I am going to go ahead and close this since the OP's question has be resolved. Feel free to start a new thread or PM me to reopen this one