Is she interested?

[nameless428]

Before I begin, I'm sorry for the grammatical mistakes if there are any, as English isn't my first language.

So there's a very pretty girl with whom I sit during one of my classes due to the teacher-assigned places. When she sat near me (because the teacher told her), she said "Hi <insert my name here>!" loudly, and I didn't respond because I was intimidated by it. At first, she asked me some questions about myself, and I responded. Most of the time we sat in awkward silence, with my head being turned in almost the opposite direction from her, and her head being turned in my direction, and her playing with her hair. I sat this way all the time unless we had to do some exercise, with which I helped her.

Then, I started to talk to her more during this class, we engaged in conversations, I joked and she laughed. She sometimes said hi to me when she passed by and noticed me outside of the class (please note that I'm too shy to say hi to her first - I only said hi when she did).

She also started touching my shoulder/jokingly hitting me while leaving the class. She also started making very long eye contact, or looking in my direction before I even turned in her direction, so that when I turned in her direction we made eye contact instantly, before I even said something.

She also invited me to sit near her sometimes. We usually spent most of the time in an awkward silence, though, with me looking in an opposite direction of her and being nervous.

Then, during one of the classes, she started to get unusually outgoing, and laying herself on my shoulder while laughing, etc. During the same class, she quietly said "Let's be a couple". Now, I live in a foreign country, so I didn't get her at first, so I asked her to repeat. She did, but I said I didn't understand, because I felt very overwhelmed. She remained rather quiet afterward. She also blushed a lot before and after asking me.

Then, she sat near me herself instead of inviting me to sit with her during one of the classes. We did have something which can be considered a conversation at this point.

Shortly after, I asked her if I could sit with her (I never asked her myself before) and she said "Yeah, if you want.". We sat together, but we spent most of the time having an awkward silence, and she seemed to be far less flirtatious when I sat with her myself, so I decided that maybe she's not interested anymore and decided to sit alone again.

The only interaction we have now (and had before) outside of the classroom environment is her asking me if I could bring some chips again, as I always have chips in my schoolbag. She often asks me for some chips and coke during the math lesson (where we sit rather closely) and then eats them demonstratively and laughs.



What kind of a move am I supposed to make at this point? And do you think she's still interested? I'm too shy to ask her out. What I want to do is to establish some kind of a relationship/friendship outside of school, so that asking her out wouldn't be as intimidating for me. How do I do that from this point?

And do you think she's interested at all, or just messing with me? She never talks to me outside of the classroom environment as I mentioned, except for the chips thing. Oh, and I'm too shy to talk to her first. Sometimes, when I'm talking to some people I know, she stands nearby and doesn't say anything. Then, when we quit talking, I usually stare somewhere else.

[Composure]

She could be equally as intimidated by the silences. It's interesting talking to someone who is fairly shy because they make you think afterwards; people who are overly confident can be good to talk to, but then you start to discover stuff that might turn you off. Confidence is good, as long as it's a very dim confidence.

It's difficult to know whether or not she's still attracted to you. I can say that she probably did like you before, but might not now. Don't despair, though, it's nothing to be upset about. You might've missed your opportunity before, but you can always make opportunities.

What I would do is start by getting her number. That's pretty much essential. You can do this by simply asking for it - she won't be too difficult about it, hopefully. All you have to do is say that you want her number just in case she/you needs help with study. It works, and doesn't require a lot of charm to get it.

When you have her number, text her a few days after you get it. It doesn't matter what you say, because texting is easy and you don't have to make eye contact or show the timidness in your voice. You can simply just ask how she is, and eventually you may get to the point where you say that you're going out and want some company. It'll take time getting to that point, but I wouldn't rush anything if you're feeling shy.

There are many ways to get around these things. The best thing you can do, though, is boost your confidence. Simply say hi every now and then first. Yes, you're shy, but you'll feel slightly better about yourself each time you say it.

I don't really know what else to say, though.

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