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What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 02:32 AM

Ok I have a problem, there is 2 girls that like me and wanna go out with me. And I cant decide which one I should go out with. I dont want to hurt the other one's feelings and if it doesnt work out with the one i choose but I wanna still be able to go out with the one i dont date right now in the future. WHAT SHOULD I DO?


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Re: What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 03:10 AM

First of all, do you even like either of them? If not, why bother?

& Anyways, are you talking about dating like a few dates or being official? Dates are okay as long as the other girl knows that you're dating another girl. Being official, I would say don't date either if you can't pick. But then again, this is your choice. You know them best, think of which is more compatible.

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Re: What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 03:12 AM

i got some advice in the chat and they told me to choose the one i liked first and tell the other one that theyre cool and all but thet i wanna see how this relationship goes.


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Re: What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 03:15 AM

Barb is right in what she said above the other thing I do want to add is, if 1 of them doesn't work out I wouldn't be so quick to jump to the other. Give things time 1st then if after that you still have feelings for that girl and think it'll work, take the step. Moving too quickly can end up causing relationships to fall apart fast, so take things slow and easy.
   
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Re: What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 03:16 AM

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i got some advice in the chat and they told me to choose the one i liked first and tell the other one that theyre cool and all but thet i wanna see how this relationship goes.
That's not a bad idea, but what I meant was make sure you actually like them & you're not just picking someone to date for the heck of it. Definitely go for the one you like the most though.
   
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Re: What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 03:17 AM

i liked them both WAY before i knew they liked me


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Re: What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 03:19 AM

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i liked them both WAY before i knew they liked me
Okay, I'm basically just saying that if you can't decide, you probably don't like them as much as you think. If you really liked one of them, it wouldn't have taken so much thought to decide. Ya know?
   
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Re: What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 03:32 AM

I'm probably gonna go with the one I liked first and are the most comparable with.


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Re: What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 03:43 AM

If you're having such a hard time choosing, you probably don't like either of them very much. I say don't date either of them, unless it's casual dating.
   
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Re: What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 03:57 AM

Dude, look back at what Barbera said. Are you planning on going on a couple dates to see how things work out, or are you planning on choosing a "girlfriend". You probably shouldn't try having two official girlfriends at the same time, but you should be able to date more than one girl.

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Re: What to do What to do - January 30th 2012, 12:09 PM

I agree with above posters. If you cannot choose between them, then that means that there isn't anything that stands out in each of them. If you were with one of them, how do you know you wouldn't start developing feelings for other girls? It may be best to just take some time to really think about this. Do you still genuinely like both of them, or do you like them just because they like you now?


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