Things to do besides sex?!

[chook14]

Hey there,
I've been seeing my boyfriend for about a month now, and I feel like we've fallen into a bit of a rut. We both adore each other, and definitely aren't just using each other for sex..buttttt lately I feel like that's all we do For some reason whenever we see each other we end up just watching a movie and having sex. We really want to see each other in different circumstances but just don't have any ideas. Money is an issue for us both, and we don't have many mutual friends. We've gone to the beach together a few times which was nice, but my question is this: What are some other low cost, fun, non-bedroom activities we can do together?!
should probably add that I'm 19 and he's 21.

thank you

[Squiggly]

You guys could hang out with friends together at someone else's house maybe or you could go for a walk? With the money issue I can't suggest to many things lol I guess I'm not creative enough but my boyfriend and I had this same thing come up when we first started dating and it lasted a few months. It should wear off after a while :P.

[Skeleton]

You can go out more, trips to the park, just for walks, even just window shopping or you could watch movies or tv but not in the bedroom so you won't be tempted to have sex because there will be more chance of getting caught or you'll be with family. If you just try and find ways to spend less time in the bedroom, you'll take away the temptation to have sex and find other things to do!

[PSY]

My boyfriend and I will play games, cook together, go for walks/hikes/exercise together, study for our classes... basically, we try to create lives that are balanced and somewhat "domestic." I think sex can be more tempting when romance is the #1 focus in your relationship... and don't get me wrong, romance is important! If that's all you focus on, though, it makes the relationship unbalanced, and that can eventually lead to some serious problems. Explore aspects of your relationship that may have been neglected due to the excess of sexual activity. It's not always about going out and doing "fun" stuff... sometimes, just doing "mundane" things together, like shopping for groceries or cleaning the apartment/house, can be fun if you're doing it with the person you love! =)

[Boobies]

Originally Posted by chook14

What are some other low cost, fun, non-bedroom activities we can do together?!

Sex outside?

[Megan1]

The best way to get closer to someone is simply talking to them. Have conversations and get to know each other better. You could go out for coffee together and talk, go for walks, cook dinners together at one of your houses, etc. It's important to know each other's interests, backgrounds, and all of that. You can spend time watching each other's favorite movies/shows to learn about each other's interests (but not all the time, because watching movies doesn't leave much room for talking). This may sound cheesey, but you can look at each other's childhood pictures and talk about your favorite memories- as a way to know the person more. Personally, my boyfriend and I like to do things together such as just talking, cooking, reading, praying, going out to eat, shopping (if you can't afford to go out shopping just for fun, this could even be just running errands with the person to the grocery store or something), going to church, going to friends' houses.....just regular stuff. Basically, we're living our normal lives like we always have, but just together.

Like someone else said, when romance is the main focus of a relationship, the relationship will only last as long as the feelings last (and feelings rarely last forever). However, if a relationship is based on a friendship and knowing each other, the relationship will last as long as the friendship lasts- which could easily be your whole lives. I'm not saying to not show any emotion or feelings for the person, but I'm saying that a relationship can't be based on those things. You say that you've only been dating your boyfriend for about a month. At that stage, there's still so many things about each other that you can't possibly know yet. Knowing the person well is one of the most important things you can do.

[Pelios]

Play games such as X Box or any other video games you could also try cleaning together it's fun when you do it with someone you love like other people have said.