I still want to be friends with my EX, but...? =(

[NewsFly]

I still want to be friends with my ex-boyfriend despite the torment and pain he put me through. He thinks I have ulterior motives to blackmail him, make his life hell, etc. because of his past experiences with exes and the one-sided things his family tells him based on their past rather than knowing me -personally-.

Mind you he seemed to be about nothing but sex, has cheated on me, lied to me, deceived me, ignored, and neglected me yet I have such a forgiving and caring heart, I forgave him each time and tried to help him become a happier person by being there for him. Now that we've been separated for about a month or so, I told him I may be pregnant, but he did nothing but yell at me, victimize himself without listening to what I had to say, and stooped to the point to degrade me racially, morally, and personally. (We were an interracial couple...I'm Creole/Black and he's German/White)

---Yet in the long-run, I still want to be his friend which is unlikely to happen. =( What can I do to move on from that ideal and stop thinking about him other than keeping busy? I'm not sure why I still want to be friends with such a douche..

[Tess*]

You both need more time to get over the break up. Don't talk to him until well after you're completely over it, if you even still want to talk to him at all. Personally, I wouldn't.
It's great that you are able to forgive him, but never forget to respect yourself. It sounds like he did some pretty bad things, you deserve way better. Don't let him do that anymore.

[NewsFly]

Yeah...I keep being told that, but it's so hard. I'll have to stay just as strong as I was even staying in such a relationship and get over him. I know I deserve much better, but I just really hate losing a friendship. >_< It eats at me for years, even after I have moved on. I just come to this point where I feel "I wonder how [insert name here] is doing?". Even an ex I broke up with years ago because the relationship just wasn't what I wanted, I still wanted to be his friend yet he hated my guts because of my decision so he refused just how this guy is doing.

[Aletheia*]

You definitely need to take some more time to move on from the relationship. Take your own advice that you gave on another thread, and remember all the things that you've known that are wrong about him, all the lies and deceit, and the wrong he's put you through. Maybe over some time, you can maintain a friendship with him, but right now, you need to take some time for yourself.

[heys.wendy]

You both need more time to get over the break up.

[Nicole!]

You have to remember all of the mean things he has done to you. He doesn't even trust you as a friend right now. Its best to just leave him alone and stop talking. Get over him first, and then in the future you could try to be friends again.