Triggering: what does he want from me

[Loyâllovee]

so my last thread mostly covered something that i was going through with my mother, now that my face has pretty much healed its a guy i know he was a friend of a friend and he and her basically were talking (not dating) but talking and he is a lot older than both of us so one day she decides to accept a ride from him long story short he bought drinks and i experienced oral from a chick =/ my friends bisexual but im not so it really threw us off for a while but every since that night (which was months ago) the guy says he hasn't been able to stop thinking about me i am a virgin and as much i think that, this is about him wanting to have sex with me he says its not he is very sweet he says he will take care of me and do whatever i want if i name it he says that out of all the girls he could be with he wants me he cant stop thinking about me and that im gorgeous the issue with all of this is that i really wanted to forget about that night because not only did i go against my sexuality i went against my religion (i was really really drunk) and i felt taken advantage of simply because she told me she kind of knew what she was doing, and because he dealt with my friend first kinda and my loyalty to my friends and myself is everlasting i would never betray any one like that because he told her he wanted me he even paid her to give him my number (she didn't) but from the first day he displayed this kind of affection she seemed sort of jealous im really tied in a knot here im not a gold digger so i dont want to be all friendly with him for his money an the thing is i would be his friend if i knew that really what he wanted he is really manipulative and i really dont need him trying to come on to me and throw things he does for me in my face sometimes i really want to say screw everything and deal with him because me and my mom haven't been seeing eye to eye and every now and then i would just like o get away from her she doesn't let me go anywhere and i could use the time away, tension has been running really high an im just really confused and could use advice

[how.we.operate.]

Well, if he is trying to push you into sex...I'd say stay away. When you lose your virginity, most tend to want to lose it willingly, to someone who they trust and care about, and when they are ready. If you are not all of these, then you should not go for it.
Now with this guy, just tell him to bug off if you don't want it...otherwise the rest is up to you.

As far as your religion and sexuality...I know this may not follow your beliefs but sometimes people do experiment in order to figure out their sexuality. Only you will know who you are and in my opinion, you shouldn't be who your religion tells you to be.

I haven't read your other post, but he is hurting you...then why are you around him?

[Loyâllovee]

Thank you so much, and he wasnt the one who hurt me my mom was.