am i being used

[lilbeachboy]

Im talking to thos girl she has a bf but she obviously shows intrest i talk to her all the time becasue she gets upset with him because he treats her like crap but i cant tell if shes waiting on me or just wants to have casual sexand take my advice what do i doooo

[Aletheia*]

Since she has a boyfriend, YOU should wait for HER to become available. Sure, she might be showing you interest, but that doesn't make it okay for you to become "the other man" in the relationship. Because, honestly, this shows you what kind of girl she really is. If she's willing to cheat on her current boyfriend, she'd be willing to cheat on you too. AND, it's not exactly fair for her boyfriend in the situation either. If she doesn't want to be in a relationship with him anymore, she should make it clear and break it off with him before making any sort of move with anyone else. So, my advice to you: Wait until she's single, and then make a move.

[Acheron]

What Shannon said. Messing with taken girls can be fun, but it's ultimately more trouble than it's worth.

[lilbeachboy]

Originally Posted by Zelophobia

Since she has a boyfriend, YOU should wait for HER to become available. Sure, she might be showing you interest, but that doesn't make it okay for you to become "the other man" in the relationship. Because, honestly, this shows you what kind of girl she really is. If she's willing to cheat on her current boyfriend, she'd be willing to cheat on you too. AND, it's not exactly fair for her boyfriend in the situation either. If she doesn't want to be in a relationship with him anymore, she should make it clear and break it off with him before making any sort of move with anyone else. So, my advice to you: Wait until she's single, and then make a move.

Yahh but the thing is shes verry self concious and when she ws younger she was chubby and never got male attention the only reason she puts up with his abuse is because she would rather be used then alone. We have allredy gotten intamate but she always forgives thiss asshole for treathing her lile dirt i dont know how i can tell her to break it off without her thinking i just want her for myself

[Aletheia*]

She forgives him because she likes him. What kind of abuse do you mean? Now, I stick by what I said before. Until she can find the nerve to dump him, stay away from her in a romantic sense. Regardless of his abuse or not, cheating on a significant other isn't fair to both parties involved, including the person one of them is cheating with. She can't fully commit to YOU until she is completely single, and available. Until then, she's just going to keep running back to him leaving you in the dust to pick up the pieces of your broken heart. She has to learn the hard way. Eventually, she'll see his true colors.

[lilbeachboy]

Originally Posted by Zelophobia

She forgives him because she likes him. What kind of abuse do you mean? Now, I stick by what I said before. Until she can find the nerve to dump him, stay away from her in a romantic sense. Regardless of his abuse or not, cheating on a significant other isn't fair to both parties involved, including the person one of them is cheating with. She can't fully commit to YOU until she is completely single, and available. Until then, she's just going to keep running back to him leaving you in the dust to pick up the pieces of your broken heart. She has to learn the hard way. Eventually, she'll see his true colors.

Its not like i care i just wanted to know here intentions im fine with casual sex i was just unsure if she actually wanted a relationship or of she was just seeking the love she doant get from her bf. I appreciate the advice tho

[how.we.operate.]

If she is with another guy, that is her decision. She can break it off at any time if she wants to.

Don't go for her. She may show interest, but she is in a relationship-regardless of it being a crappy relationship. You can support her all you want, but don't get involved past being friends until she does something about her current relationship.