Can't be with me while thinking about "him"

[Admon]

Okay so ive been friends with this girl for years now finally she has come around and likes me. Everytime we hang out we are making out and some more no sex tho. We always walk in the halls of school together and everything..Great and all but the thing is, she had this bf for about a year a bit ago that moved like 4 hours away. She was very close to him and now they are talking again and idk what to do. She told me she cant date me while she is thinking about him. I said that she needs to choose, me or him. Then I admitted to her that if she picks him it cant be the same anymore. She will have destroyed and betrayed me. Idk what to do about this annnddd prom is coming up so it sucks! haha any help would be nice.
thanks

Oh and the guy isn't moving back or anything so they would still be hours apart. just thought there could be confusion there hah

[Aletheia*]

Unfortunately, she has made her choice to wait it out right now. She might not be completely over him, and until then, she can't fully COMMIT to you. That doesn't mean you should give up on her. Now, I don't suggest giving her an ultimatum since those never seem to work out in your favor. I think it's best to just let her decide on her own without any pressure from either party.

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by Admon

she had this bf for about a year a bit ago that moved like 4 hours away.

If it was pretty recent that he moved away, then she isn't over him yet. Instead of pressuring her to choose you or him, you need to back off a little and give her some space. She does like you, but its hard to be with someone when you are still thinking of a past relationship. She might just need some time to herself to sort things out before she can commit to you.
As Shannon said, don't give up on her yet. She knows that he is far away, but if they were really close then its something that is going to be hard for her to get over. Be supportive of her, don't make her completely drop someone she isn't even over yet.

[Admon]

He moved away at the end of summer. They stopped talking for a couple months but now theyre talking again and it just worries me. I'm hoping that she will be able to end up picking me but stiiiilll I worry a lot hah

[Nicole!]

Well its understandable, don't worry! I'm sure if this was happening to me, I would worry as well. They probably just miss each other, but since he lives so far away I don't think it is likely that she will dump you for him.

[Admon]

Okkkayyyy thank you! I just kinda sucks cause Ive been waiting sooo long for this and now it still is right there away from me haha

[Nicole!]

Yeah, that must be annoying haha. But don't worry, if she does like you then I'm sure she will find a way to move on.
Just don't wait too long, if she doesn't come back to you then it may be best to find someone else. Sadly you can't make her choose to be with you.