I have no idea what to do.. please help me

[Kindasuck02]

So here's some background:

- I'm 17, she's 18.
- Her ex was 26(that means that she's basically into older guys?).
- Most of her friends are actually boys and I am really scared she might friendzone me.
- We take the same bus to school.
- She lives 10 minutes with the bus away from me and our schools are near to each other as well.
- We share the same school shift.
- We met half an year ago on the bus and I just thought it was a good idea to go and talk to her(I immediately fell in love).
- Considered myself not good enough for her for a very long time. She is just so beautiful, goes to work since 13 years old, engages in sports every single day, is very smart and is decent at school.
- We pretty much only met on the bus and it was rare.. like two times a week.
- Asked her out for a walk by a nearby lake once. Just small chat happened, nothing more. Told me to text her later at the end.
- Went to some martial art training together for a month and a half.
- Didn't keep in touch for over two months.
- She didn't reply to me "Happy New Year" SMS.
- The furthest I've gone with her has been a 5-second long good-bye hug and some fighting(you know.. those small fights where you try to make the other one fall down and stuff like that).
- We happen to make really good eye contact while talking. There are even those moments where we slow it down and simply stare at each other's eyes almost without blinking. Maybe this is the time for me to kiss her?
- Am not really sure whether she has a boyfriend or not. Last thing I know about is that she broke up with her ex just before we acquainted and she seemed to still have some feelings for him, even though they weren't on very good terms. But I don't know if she got something other going on or got back with him, whatsoever, after that. Just hope she hasn't.
- She hardly ever writes to me first. Though if she promises she'll write or I ask her to she always does.

Two weeks ago we finally met on that bus again. We talked a lot. It was fun. I walked her to her school and at the end we hugged and she said she enjoyed it. We texted a bit for a week over skype, poked each other on facebook. The cool thing about poking was that unlike before, when she poked me like... once in a month, now she poked me every time she logged in. Eventually asked her out for a movie in a nearby cinema. I had intentions on buying her flowers but under unfortunate circumstances I was unable to. However, the movie itself went pretty good. I didn't hold her hand, kiss her or anything. Nothing much happened except for some nice feeling of closeness when we touched a bit(as we were leaning towards each other). Spent an hour talking at some free table at the cinema. She gave me some hand-made tie thing as a gift. It was real cute.

From this week on we are sharing the same bus on our way to school which is usually in 7 AM every morning so we got a lot of random time to spend together and to talk to each other.



There are two things, however that I would ask for help about:

The first one is that even though I feel myself the most being with her and can say for sure that I am truly happy, I don't happen to talk much. It's just that even if I had something on my mind, some cool ideas, jokes and stuff, the moment I approach her everything fades away and I feel a bit like a retard. She talks in like..80%+ of the time and from time to time there happens some sort of a silence where nobody talks until one of us starts a new topic(which is usually her) as I am always out of ideas. The most awkward about this is that I am usually verry chatty. At times I can't even shut my mouth and feel like I can keep on talking forever. But with her it's all different. Just how do I ease and be more open with her so that I don't look like a total retard? I feel like I'm making a really bad impression like that.

The second and more important one is that I don't know how to confess my feelings. Should I ask her out somewhere again(there are not a lot of options right now though as the weather is very bad)? Should I wait for her after school and give her flowers(the only thing that comes to my mind is a red rose) or something? Should I kiss her the next time I walk her to her school? Should I simply talk to her about it? Should I make use of Valentine's Day and do something for her on that day(or is it to clische?)? I have no idea what to do. And as she is very attractive I feel like the more I wait the more guys approach her and I might eventually miss my chance.


I haven't been so deeply in love before and all I want is to be with her. For the first time ever did I fail SO hard at school only because the neverstopping thought of her seriously spoiled every single of my efforts for concentration. I find myself truly happy when I am with her and forget about all of my problems. And she is just so calm yet very charismatic and smiling. I find us to be very alike(even she has said that on several occasions).

I know it's been a long post but I just couldn't help it. I would really appreciate it if some of you guys read through it and gave me a decent advice. Thanks in advance !!!

[Aletheia*]

The first one is that even though I feel myself the most being with her and can say for sure that I am truly happy, I don't happen to talk much. It's just that even if I had something on my mind, some cool ideas, jokes and stuff, the moment I approach her everything fades away and I feel a bit like a retard. She talks in like..80%+ of the time and from time to time there happens some sort of a silence where nobody talks until one of us starts a new topic(which is usually her) as I am always out of ideas. The most awkward about this is that I am usually verry chatty. At times I can't even shut my mouth and feel like I can keep on talking forever. But with her it's all different. Just how do I ease and be more open with her so that I don't look like a total retard? I feel like I'm making a really bad impression like that.

Don't let the awkward silences control you. No matter what topic you pick, I'm sure she'd have something to say about it so don't be afraid to say something to her. It's not a big deal that she spends most of the time talking, but YOU need to talk too. It doesn't necessarily make you seem like a "retard" because you don't, and I'm sure she wouldn't be giving you the time of day if she thought this as well. You may forget things you wanted to mention, which is fine, so bring up something else, like what kind of sports she's into, what she does for fun. You could even make a game out of it, like 20 questions. You ask a question, she answers then you answer, then she asks a question and you answer, then she answers. I've done this a few times with people I've just met, and was trying to get to know better. So give it a shot.

The second and more important one is that I don't know how to confess my feelings. Should I ask her out somewhere again(there are not a lot of options right now though as the weather is very bad)? Should I wait for her after school and give her flowers(the only thing that comes to my mind is a red rose) or something? Should I kiss her the next time I walk her to her school? Should I simply talk to her about it? Should I make use of Valentine's Day and do something for her on that day(or is it to clische?)? I have no idea what to do. And as she is very attractive I feel like the more I wait the more guys approach her and I might eventually miss my chance.

The longer you wait, the chances ARE going to slim. It doesn't mean that there are any other guys pursuing her, but she might lose interest if you don't take action. Try asking her out for dinner, or to another movie. Don't try to move to quickly. A rose will be cute, maybe on Valentines Day it would be a nice surprise. Don't try to go too overboard, since you two aren't official. She might think it's weird if you go too overboard with it. If you feel like she'd be willing to talk about it, talk to her about it. You can only try. The worst thing she can say is no, which isn't the end of the world. You could always have an extra friend.

[Kindasuck02]

Thanks you for the answer. But it's just that I don't know how to approach her to tell her such a thing. And also what bothers me is that even though she is veeeery nice in person, as I said, she hardly ever writes to me first. For example, I called her yesterday in the morning but apparently she had forgotten her phone or something. And havent heard from her yet. No text, no nothing... And just at the thought of her having an affair with somebody drives me crazy. I have some suspisions that there might be something between her and her ex going on and if this comes out to be true... I don't know... I simply do not know what to do anymore.. Maybe I wait till Monday to see her on my way to school and talk her into going out again or something? And if I want to go out with her exactly on Valentine's Day wouldn't it be way oversuspicious? And maybe I should ask someone who might know if she is actually single, shouldn't I?