Asking a Girl Out Question

Veni Vidi Vici · **Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 11th 2012, 06:30 AM

So have any of you guys tried asking a girl out by just going up to her and telling her that you think she's really cute? Does that work?

I had a talk with my friend about this and he thinks it won't work. He suggests the obvious choice of getting to know her and talking to her. Thing is, our lives don't cross paths anymore, so I don't really see her anymore. I saw her in person the other day so I thought that maybe if I'd see her again, I might tell her how I feel and skip all the getting-to-know-her parts since that's really hard to get to in this case.

So what do you guys think? This girl is a big deal for me so don't just say 'idk, go for it.' I need to know what you guys think of this method...

Raining Glitter · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 11th 2012, 07:03 AM

Coming from a girl standpoint, I think it can work. It really depends on the girl and also how you say it.

Some girls would be totally heart melted if you did this to them. Some other girls might feel very uncomfortable since they don't date often, don't know you, aren't confident/think you are joking, ect. Some girls might be looking for a more connection first. I could list all day all the possibilities.

I say go for it. If she rejects you, well that's okay since you don't talk to her much anyways. If she doesn't, you get a date! And if you are worried, you could always tell her she's pretty and ask for her number instead, so you can get to know her. Be like "I'm sorry miss, but I find you absolutely beautiful and I would like to get to know you better, may I have your number" or something. There's numerous of ways to ask someone for their number or even ask them out. Being straight forward with it is one way. :P If you want help with more creative lines/ways to talk to her so it's less awkward, let me know!

Whatever you do, I highly recommend it you don't make it sexual/focus on her body. You don't want the girl to assume you are joking, trying to use her, you are a player/douchebag, ect. I'm pretty sure you already know this already, but no comments about her boobs, butt, or body. Instead, aim for something about her grace, eyes, smile, ect. Instead of calling her hot or sexy, say she's beautiful, pretty, angelic, ect. Make eye contact and smile

Act friendly and yourself! You should do fine!

Worse comes to worse, you can try again or at least try talking to her again. If you keep at it, it might prove you are serious and she might give you a chance. Say she blows you off, next time just approach her and try talking to her and maybe ask for her number. If she is the type that wants to get to know you first, this might seem very impressive to her (and might melt her heart more). If you keep at it, I wouldn't be surprised if she says yes. It would make her feel special!

I hope everything works out for you! Good luck! If you have any questions, be happy to ask me!

Tyr. · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 11th 2012, 07:52 AM

I've had mixed results using that method. It's worked sometimes and it's been a total clusterfuck other times

If you don't try it, you've failed. So anything is better than that. As Raining Glitter said, just introduce yourself, briefly tell her your feelings and ask if you can get to know her better. It'll either work out or go to shit. Either way, better than not giving it a crack in the first place.

Let us know how it works out for you.

- Yogi

heather_tate19 · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 11th 2012, 07:53 AM

from my experience: it's worked for me or at least got my attention. I think it shows that you've got confidence and courage- which is good.

But if you are looking for a SURE way for her to say yes, walk up to her, have a conversation with her and at the end of the conversation, if you made good impression, tell her then.

Harmony♥ · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 11th 2012, 12:16 PM

I think it CAN work, but it all depends on the girl. Some girls are very flattered when someone randomly says "Hey, you're cute!", while others will turn in the other direction, creeped out. Whether or not it's going to work for you won't be determined until you try. The girl you're thinking about might say "Hey, thanks!" or she might just turn a blind eye to the compliment. Don't expect her to automatically jump into your arms afterward. Be prepared for any kind of answer.

Tynan · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 11th 2012, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by heather_tate19

from my experience: it's worked for me or at least got my attention. I think it shows that you've got confidence and courage- which is good.

But if you are looking for a SURE way for her to say yes, walk up to her, have a conversation with her and at the end of the conversation, if you made good impression, tell her then.

I fully agree on this one. It does work for some girls. but like shannon said some dont always like being asked like that. I say go for it. the worst that could happen is she says no. But at least then you went for it. But I'll leave you with a quote by the genus of Wayne Gretzky. "You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take." It really speaks truth for life and love. Go for it man. and good luck

blumemusik♫ · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 11th 2012, 04:10 PM

Like others are saying, it depends on the girl. I'd be flattered, and think it was good because it shows you're kinda brave, but others would be a little creeped out.
You know the girl, we don't - you probably have a better idea of what will work for her. If you think she's really special, then go for it! Don't be shy!

Skeleton · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 11th 2012, 04:18 PM

I agree that it depends on the girl, some will love it and some will probably be creeped out and walk away but you don't know until you try. Just say something like you've seen her around and you think she's cute and wouldn't mind getting to know her a bit better and see what she says, then if it goes well, ask her for number or something and take it from there. Good luck if you do it.

Koharuchan · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 12th 2012, 02:17 AM

It depends on the girl. Personally, if I was single and didn't know a guy very well and he just came up and said I was cute and wanted to date me, I would tell him I'm flattered he thinks that I'm cute, but I'd rather get to know him before I jump into a relationship. I think if you don't know someone well you shouldn't just ask them out.

This goes for boys, too. For example, about a week ago my boyfriend was approached by a girl that he hardly knew. She tried to ask him out, and obviously he stopped her and told her he had a girlfriend, but when he told me about it he said "Even if I didn't have a girlfriend I would've said no, I don't know her. If a girl just comes up to me wanting to date me when I don't know anything about her or haven't even seen her before, the answer is no."

Brandon · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 12th 2012, 03:37 PM

Every woman is different.

One time, there was a bank teller that I was very interested in dating, and I just walked up to her and asked her if she'd be willing to go on a date. She said no because she had a boyfriend, but she smiled and backed away. LOL. In another circumstance, I knew this girl in class and I wanted to ask her out, so we shared a few laughs and then I asked if she she'd be willing to go on a date, and she said no...but I later found out that she was pregnant and still wasn't over her ex because of it.

With my current girlfriend, we talked for a while on the internet (since I met her in a dating service) and eventually I asked her about going on a date and she said yes. I'd say that you're more likely to get a positive answer when you communicate with them often rather than just going up and asking them. Track her down and get in touch with her...perhaps by Facebook, or the next time you see her...just comment on your history together, ask her how she's been, and ask her if she'd be willing to go for coffee sometime to catch up on old times. Whatever you feel is best.

Valheru · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 13th 2012, 01:45 AM

I don't care what anyone says, it's not what you say, it's what you do.

If you're confident enough, she'll notice. It's confidence that is the most attractive feature.

Don't say cute, cute is how you'd describe a teddy, or a baby.

The only time I've ever been said no to is when they've had a boyfriend or husband.

Veni Vidi Vici · **Re: Asking a Girl Out Question -** March 13th 2012, 05:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Valheru

I don't care what anyone says, it's not what you say, it's what you do.

If you're confident enough, she'll notice. It's confidence that is the most attractive feature.

Don't say cute, cute is how you'd describe a teddy, or a baby.

The only time I've ever been said no to is when they've had a boyfriend or husband.

So which words do you suggest I say?

As for everyone else, thanks for your responses, I've been taking note of all the opinions. My friends don't like this, but it seems like some of you do.. I've got some thinking to do!!