Help

[SoulSearcher]

Well here's the deal, I have a close friend and a couple months ago they told me that they were somewhat interested in me. Well now they are dating someone and I finally admitted to having feelings for them. They say that their feelings are still there. I'm confused they say they really care for me, yet their dating someone else. Still they say if anything were to happen to their significant other or the relationship they would go out with me.

It makes it so hard and I've started to hurt myself because I can't stand to think about it. I just don't know what to do, I have all these mixed emotions and there starting to make my depressions worse. Now when I see them with their significant other it makes me jealous and angry.
What should I do, I want to stop hurting emotionally and physically HELP!

[Silhouette]

Don't let yourself be their second option. If they truly do like you and want to be with you, then they wouldn't be with this other person. It shows where their priorities are.
Instead of waiting around for them, move on to someone who will put you first.
The best thing to do is avoid them if you can and don't talk to them for awhile. Distract yourself with hobbies and spend some time with friends and family.
They don't deserve you, and you don't deserve to be put last like that.

[Flavalicious]

If you want to stop hurting, first you really need to stop letting yourself being hurt by others. It seems like they don't take you seriously and making you an option for them and it's not fair for you. You deserve people who can treat you better than that. If they're really your close friends, they wouldn't have done that in the first place.

Learn to forget about them at the moment and don't make them the center of your thoughts for now. Try to hang out with your other friends, do something that makes you happy and distracting the thoughts of them from your mind. You deserve to be happy. And friends who make you hurt yourself are never good friends.

[Harmony♥]

Move on. That's the first step.

Honestly, I can see why this person moved on to someone else. They told you their feelings about you, and it took them being with another person for you to accept your own feelings. Can you blame them for wanting to move on, and find a relationship that worked for them? I couldn't. I'd understand. No one can wait around forever for the person they like to like them back. It just doesn't work out that way.

The only advice I can give you is that you need to move on from this. I can't tell you to wait since that would be contradicting exactly what I just said. If they don't want to be with you, then they aren't worth your time anymore. However, if they still have feelings for you, it wouldn't be fair for their significant other either. Maybe this should be pointed out to them? It may just work in your favor.

Best of luck to you.

[SoulSearcher]

Thanks to all three of you.

I understand each point made and it really makes sense, why should I love someone and hurt because of it if they don't love me.