Guy troubles.

[acting101]

I know this is a lot to read... but bare with me.

Almost a year ago, this guy and I started getting really close. He's an ass though- not even kidding. He gets pleasure from making other people upset or pissed. That alone should have been the first warning to stay away from him.
We started hanging out a lot, and then making out occasionally. He liked me, and I liked him. He didn't want to be "in a relationship" though, because he was leaving for university and didn't want to do a long distance relationship... even though he ended up coming down every weekend to hang out with me anyways.
In December, we got in a fight. He texted my best friend - my only friend at the time (shit happens) - something that would promptly end my friendship with her. I even told him what would happen if he did - that it would really screw up my life, but he did it anyways. Thankfully, I got to her first and nothing bad happened. Still, I ignored the ass up until last month.
I was getting sick of the periodic texts he would send me at 3am, saying things like "I miss you" and "I wish you were with me right now." Flattering, yes, but I got scared after a while. I told him multiple times to stop texting me, but he didn't stop. He even threatened one to come see me at my school if I didn't respond. Next year, I'm planning on going to the same university as him, so I thought it best to befriend him - in fear of what he'd do when I arrived at the university.
So we're friends now, sorta. And what really sucks now is I didn't necessarily have to become friends with him again. After a campus tour at a difference school, I might not even be going to his university anymore.
I'm still scared of him though, and my gut tells me I should still stay away from him. But I don't know what to do. Deep down, I still want to be friends with him... but I know I shouldn't. We're hanging out tomorrow, just for about an hour.

So basically, my question:
If I were to break of contact with this guy (again), what would be the best way to? I'd feel like a bitch if I do, since I already made up with him once before, and not that long ago.

[PSY]

Well, you could take a few approaches. One would be to flat-out tell him you don't want him to contact you, and if he continues to harass you, you'll file a restraining order against him. Another way would be to just slowly stop talking to him (and when he asks why you don't call/text, say you're busy and don't have much free time these days). Yet another way would be to block him without warning and hope he never finds another way to get in contact with you (and if he ever did and was threatening you, call the police).

You are, in fact, allowed to change your mind about being friends with ex-boyfriends... so you don't have to feel bad about how you're feeling and what you want to do. =) Just be sure to do it safely, and put a little bit of pressure on him if he won't back off. Good luck!