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Originally Posted by Kristinaaaa
I have been told many times that I'm a perfectionist.
I disagree, whole heartedly.
But, school is ending in 8 days for me.
I'm a freshman, and will be a sophomore next year.
Grades and my future are eating up my thoughts almost non stop.
I swear 80% of the time it's the only thing that matters to me.
I feel like I need to slow down and just get rid of stress but I can't.
Is it bad to feel the need to work so hard all of the time?
I take all honors classes, and we have 9 periods a day.
Four honors, one language, and a bunch of other electives.
I just don't want to do it anymore.
I don't want to lose the effort or will to care about school.
I'm so afraid I won't get anywhere and I won't live I'll just be poor and stupid if I don't try now..?
It seems like overreacting I guess but it's honestly how I feel.
Like the smallest things I do, I act like they're going to change my life. The three point french homework. The 10 point english essential questions.
It's just too much!
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Breatheeeee.
I
don't know if this will make sense to you, but once I learned about fallacies, it really made sense to me. Ever heard of the Slippery Slope Fallacy? In debate or rhetoric, a slippery slope is a classical informal fallacy. A slippery slope argument states that a relatively small first step inevitably leads to a chain of related events culminating in some significant impact.
You're saying that if you don't do well freshman year of highschool you will forever end up poor, dismal, and dejected? This simply just doesn't make sense, dear! Now that you're aware of the fallacy, perhaps you spot out this fallacious thinking and correct it accordingly. That's what I have to do..
I am also a perfectionstic, and to be honest, it's
very exhausting.
However, you can restructure your thinking to use perfectionism so that it is no longer self-destructive. Perfectionism as a personality trait can be used for high-achieving, though it is a very precarious balance. If you'd like to read more on perfectionism and how to better achieve this balance, read this article:
What flavor of perfectionist are you? It matters! | Psychology Today Blogs
5 words, now that you know the slippery slope fallacy and can hopefully sleep better at night:
Don't sweat the small stuff.
Feel free to drop a
VM or a
PM dear, and best of luck!