Originally Posted by Annoni
Well, I'm actually going to mainly respond to the second part, since I have never been and never will be in a strip club
I might be sorta confused with how you explained it, so sorry if I interpreted something wrong.
First of all, if you're going to tell him, tell him in person. Unless he's destructive or you're his whole world and security (which it doesn't seem like), there should be no harm telling him in person, and it's generally a whole lot more respectful and just nice. I've seen way too many people flame up about only how they were told (online, text, etc) and weren't actually upset about what was told!
I would suggest not hooking up one more time before telling him it's only a friendship after, and not with benefits. That could cause a number of problems for both of you. For you, you'd be using him. That's a plain fact, and no one necessarily likes being used. Plus, it would be even harder for you to let go after that, because you know you want
to do things with him, but at the same time you know you can't
. For him, it's going to confuse him a lot more and could make him very angry. Angry people are not fun to deal with
Take care, and don't be afraid to ask me anything (except about strip clubs, haha)
I feel like he's just using me then. I mean he says he cares for me as a friend, but that's it. So I just feel like for him, I'm the one that's there right now and so if he wants to do stuff, then that works for him because he can "get some" if he wants it.
I'm also worried because if I tell him in person, that means I have to wait until Saturday. That would mean I'd be telling him the day that we're supposed to go to the strip club that I'm just gonna say "I can't do it... I can't be friends with benefits." What if he gets mad for me not telling him in advance? What if he doesn't have other plans and thinks "well what are we supposed to do?" What if he says "fine, well we have nothing to do then, so you can go home?" I'm just so scared of what he'll say or what he'll do or how he'll react. I don't know if I can do it