[Dana]

I think you misread what I said. You're right-- the problem is not your boyfriend. The problem is your insecurities. Only you can decide whether or not he's telling you the truth (when he says he won't let the feelings fade, etc.), but from what you've posted I see no reason not to trust him. I do think your fear is getting in the way here. You need to get over his past and trust him. Otherwise your relationship will not work. Don't you think you're hurting your boyfriend by bringing up his past and not trusting him? If you love him, then you should let his past go. It's scary, but take the chance and don't be afraid to trust and love him.