Originally Posted by riirahh
i was at the local show jus chillin with my friends, anyways i was friends with a fella who is 10 yrs olda than me... he got a little bit intoxicated and had to go to the toilet but was struggling to get up the hill, so me being friend i helped him up the hill, but he thought it was meant to mean something els.... he told me to kiss him but i said nahh its ok ur drunk, he got out of the toilet and he planted one on me. then we went up to the bck fence with 2 of his mates and me n him jus sat there hookin up..... then he asked me out and i said no, but then he went to the pub and said i should think about itt why hes gone... i ended up sayin yes :/ stupid i know.... he got back and we went behind the toilet block and we had sex... it was good, but now i get called slut and am banned from seein him
hes my bestfriend and i need him
DISCLAIMER: I am not encouraging you to have sex with him, im encouraging you to go out with him if u want to (its legal to date him). this disclaimer is here to clearly point out to everyone that this post does not break the rule about encouraging illegal behavior. that being said , just follow what your gut tells you about the sex thing, just keep it secret so nobody finds out, try to hide all evidence such as condom wrappers.
age is just a number, im 17 and i think that the statutory rape laws are ridiculous, when im 25 id have NO hesitations about falling in love and having sex with someone who who is 16 (though 15 would likely be too young at that age, but logically there aint a real difference between 15 and 16). as long as she knows its consensual. i hope i dont ever get labeled as a sex offender, but id never let fear of a law get in my way of falling in love and stuff. unfortunately there exist people who think that an a18 year old with a 17 year old is a pedofile because the 17 year old is technically a "child". but those people are idiots.
i say get with the guy anyway , i mean u love him and he probably wants more than sex since he asked u out. however DO NOT let the word get around that u are with him, since it is probably illegal, and he could get in big trouble.
anyone who calls u a slut is dumb. they are just saying that because teens these days (at least in america) are being brought up to be against large age differences. if u ask any of them why they think age difference is bad they will say something like "because u are letting him use u " or something, because in todays society , people ALWAYS see it as "the guy is "taking advantage " of the girl and the guy is a creepy pedo for it, and the girl is a slut for allowing it". people always think that the man is much smarter and more mature than the women, in fact the opposite is true, it is proven that girls mature faster and earlier than boys. i hate how society thinks girls are stupid, what ever happened to true feminism?
i know people will probably be mad at me for saying all this (and i bet some mod
is gonna edit my post) but in reality there is nothing logically wrong with what i am saying, nobody can prove any of their opinions about older guys. i think age is just a number as long as the person is 16 and above.
im not saying there are no men who take advantage of girls, and i sincerly hope that none of those girls gets insulted by what im saying. im basically saying this : there are good boys and there are bad boys of all ages. in fact i bet you would have a greater likelihood of being taken advantage of and dumped by an immature boy of your same age than with an older man.
Be strong , and go for the guy you truely want, if you want to go with this boy who is older then by all means do it, however just dont make it obvious that you are involved with him , and dont talk about him much to your father, because dads tend to be overly protective about their daughter because a lot of fathers tend to think that girls are too stupid to know what they want. well the truth is that girls are smart , probably smarter than boys, afterall more girls than guys graduate college
i hope all goes well. and also : being with an older man does not mean you will not enjoy your teens. just go with what you want, just be smart about it.