Join Date: January 9th 2009
Male infertility :/ -
June 21st 2011, 10:17 PM
Hello, everyone! I'm in some need of advice concerning male infertility. So, essentially, my boyfriend and I (who have only been with one another, by the way--sexually and otherwise) have been having sex for approximately three and a half years--and while we neglect to use any barrier/contraceptive methods to prevent pregnancy, he always manages to withdraw in a timely manner. To be honest, for us, we're not terribly worried about any "accidents" because a) we're both perfectly content with getting an abortion if need be, b) this method seems to serve us faithfully, c) we both strongly dislike condoms, and d) I refuse to jeopardize my health by taking oral contraceptives. In any case, I'm getting rather concerned in regards to him potentially being infertile--he's quite overweight right now (he has a severe case of binge eating disorder), his testosterone and testicular volume are quite low (according to his doctor), and it's likely that he has a low sperm count. I love this guy to death, and I'm desperately looking forward to having an amazing, fruitful future with him...but I absolutely want children...and I worry that he and I won't be able to conceive (granted, he withdraws considerably early during sex, so perhaps we've just been lucky thus far). Thankfully, his sex drive has heightened over these past couple of months (I literally used to NAG him for sex--because unlike him, I have a near-outrageously high libido for a woman)...so I'm feeling a bit more optimistic, as this COULD potentially be indicative of rising testosterone levels (although I'm not entirely sure).
Anyway, my question(s) is/are: Will losing weight correlate with rising fertility? Would it be wise of him to start employing some of the at-home remedies now? (such as eating 2-3 gloves of garlic daily, eating lots of fruit and vegetables (although he does this already), etc., etc.?), should he have continued with synthetic testosterone injections--as he was a couple of years ago? (he discontinued them because they made him feel horribly aggressive and antagonistic), or what? I really want to be able to have at least ONE child with him in the future--and as expressed, I worry that it won't be possible
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