[Ennui.]

Hey there,

Maybe what you can do is encourage him to come talk to you or someone he trusts when he is having a problem, because that way he won't have to deal with things on his own. Let him know that you understand that things are really hard for him right now but bottling it up inside won't help. You can try and be open and supportive with him by listening to what he has to say.

Maybe you can give him ways to get closure as well. For instance, he can make a scrapbook of all the good times he had with his grandad if he has any pictures. Or, he can write his grandad letters. What he does with those letters is up to him. For instance, he can keep them, tear them up, burn them, or put it outside to let the wind take it. He can even tie it to a balloon and watch it float away.

Also let him know that even though his grandad isn't physically with him anymore, that doesn't mean he isn't proud of him. I bet his grandad would be so proud of him if he was here today for trying so hard and getting through the days, and depending on what he believes, his grandad could be sending him smiles right now. He could be in the sunshine or the clouds, or watching him from the stars. It is okay to feel sad sometimes or even cry sometimes when things get to be too much, but his grandad probably wouldn't want to see him sad all the time. Do things that would make both himself and his grandad proud.

I hope he can get through this. Even though you may not know how to fully help, you are an amazing girlfriend for wanting to!

-Dez