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Re: I Guess I'm Just Lonely -
July 18th 2013, 04:47 AM
Hey there,
I am sorry you are dealing with these feelings but I believe it will get better. I think a big issue with you is that you are so isolated that it is causing your depression and feeling like you don't have a use intensify. I know going into social settings can be really hard but I think the best thing for you to do would be to try and force yourself to get out into social settings. It will be really hard to do at first but the more you do it the less difficult it will be. See, the more you do something that you do something the more your body gets comfortable with and it slowly becomes less uncomfortable. It can take a while for it to become more comfortable but it will happen.
I think it would be a really good idea for you to look into joining clubs at your school or getting involved in some volunteer opportunities around your community. Both of these activities will put you into social settings and help you work on finding more friends.
I know you said that you have texted people and not received replies and I am sorry to hear that. Do you think it is because you isolated yourself so much? If so would you consider sending them some type of message saying something like "Hey I know I have been absent lately but I was wondering if you would like to hang out?" It is possible that some of the reason they haven't messaged back is because they have gotten busy with life however if you message them one last time and they don't respond you should probably move on. But, it is possible to find new friends. Yes, it will be hard because of the fact that social setting make you uncomfortable but push yourself anyway because you deserve to have friends.
As for the summer, I think it is important that you try and keep yourself busy and try and get out of the house as much as possible. I know you might not have a lot of things to do but maybe you could try and come up with little activities you could do outside of the house. Do you have a park, coffee shop or library near you? If so maybe you could go and read for a bit at one of those places; I know that might sound boring but you will be getting out of your house and keeping yourself busy. You could also try going to movies every once in a while. I know those might not be the greatest activities to partake in and doing them alone might not be the most fun thing to do but keeping yourself isolated in the house all summer isn't good. Try thinking of activities you can do outside of the house on a more regular basis.
Do you like to exercise? That is something else you should look into doing because it is supposed to help people who struggle with feelings of sadness. Also, exercise could be an activity you could do every day that would help you get out of the house.
I really hope that this helped and if you want to chat feel free to message me.
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