[Chris]

Hey there.

Well I can relate to your situation. Every holiday in my family we have a get-together where we all hang out, play poker/other card games, and sometimes it gets so intense that we dance and sing. Now when I was a bit younger I hated it. My family would practically make me do things like sing/dance and I never was into that. However, when I was 15, I brought a female "friend" over, and warned her my family is crazy. Once the dancing and signing started, she actually took there side and told me to lighten up, and she danced and sang without me. I really took that to heart. Why do I always have to be so serious? Who is going to judge me? It's my family, not like a group of complete strangers. So now, when my family gets crazy, instead of being the outcast of the family, and isolating myself, I just join in. Why not? It's good to loosen up once in awhile.

As said before, I know how embarrassing it is. If you feel that you're able to (and comfortable with) dancing and singing, then I would say go for it (or atleast try it)! But if you truly do not feel comfortable singing or dancing, I'd urge you to sit down with your parents (when no one else is around) and tell them (in a non-aggressive way) that you felt extremely uncomfortable with the whole situation. Remember, Communication is key.


Best wishes,
Chris