[Lelola]

Well, some people do like to keep it quiet till 3 months but in all honesty, if you want to tell people then tell people. In the end, it is your pregnancy. I would tell him that at X time you will start to tell people about the baby to give him time to prepare for it. I think 12 weeks is usually a good time as that is the start of the 2nd trimester. If you haven't told your immediate family, I would consider telling them.

I don't see anything healthy in keeping the child a secret for long periods of time. After 12 weeks, then I would definitely tell people. The baby isn't going to go away.

I would also prepare to raise the child alone as it sounds like he has not grown up. While he is supportive of his other child, he may not be supportive of yours. Cold thing to say, but that sometimes happens.