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Re: My head of year phoned my parents! - September 11th 2015, 11:11 PM

Hey, Liz!

This must have been quite mortifying for you when the teachers saw and and told you they had to phone your parents. I doubt your teachers will think of you differently now because I imagine they've come across quite a few students struggling with self-harm because sadly, it's all too common. Perhaps you could speak to these teachers and express your concern? It's okay to ask them questions like this so you don't have these worries on your mind at school.

As for your mom, I realize it may make you feel bad seeing her worry. Thing is, she's your mom and that means you are not a burden at all; you're her child whom she loves and cares for. Her job is to worry about you! I imagine she loves you a great deal and would want to support you and help you with your struggles. Would you consider coming clean with her? You could pick a time when she's busy and in a fairly good mood and apologize for blaming the cat and just explain your self-harm along with why you do it. That thought probably feels really scary, but I bet having her support and being able to talk to your mom about it (you could let her know when you have urges as well) would be extremely helpful to you. Just to have your mom know so you don't have to deal with this all alone, you know? Even though it probably sounds scary, think about it.

Counseling might not have been a choice of yours but I suggest trying to make the most out of it. Talking about your feelings and what you're having a hard time with might prove rather beneficial because of simply being able to talk to someone in real life about it and your counselor might have rather helpful advice to give to you.

You're welcome to continue posting here. Let us know how things go for you if you wish. I hope all goes well, Liz. Take care and stay strong.