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Re: Abusive to my Girlfriend - September 11th 2016, 03:56 PM

You've received some good advice, but I have a few things to add.

Someone said that it is good you realized you're doing this and you want to change your behavior, and it definitely is. Many people in abusive relationships don't realize what they're doing, or they do and downplay it so they continue doing unhealthy things. The fact that you realize what you are doing is a positive sign, and I believe you will be able to prevent this from occurring in future relationships.

Being together right now is up to you, but regardless, it might help to stop and think about what to do before you do it when you're angry while around your girlfriend or anyone else. See if you can acknowledge what you are about to do, and do something positive or walk away to cool off instead. Some people will stop, take a few deep breaths, and picture their anger leaving their bodies as they exhale.

Are you able to speak to a trusted adult or a professional about your anger? If not, I can help you with some different techniques to cope with anger if you'd like. Maybe you can explore possible causes for your anger as well, if you don't already know what they are.

As for your question, I am not abusive to anyone and never have been, but I do struggle with anger and I am still learning how to cope with it.

Feel free to let me know if you need anything.

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