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Originally Posted by thebigmole
I've gotta agree with YourNightmare in a way. I don't have much sympathy for the victims to commit suicide. Granted I don't have sympathy for anyone who commits suicide (though I am for euthanasia if your gonna die in 3 months of a slow painful death but that's different). But the act of suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do. That being said this story scares the shit out of me and here's why. My younger brother just turned 12, last month a 7th grader flicked him off in the cafeteria and called him a homo. Now my brother is not gay but he happens to be a dancer, so he often gets teased for this. When this happened the principal met with my mother and explained that the boy was being talked to but he had I can't quite remember the name of the disease but it's some muscle deterioration disease apparently all of the kids in this boys family has it. So my mother figured that maybe the kid was just jealous because he's going to end up in a wheel chair while my brother can tap dance some adult's asses off. My mother said that didn't excuse it but she understood why it happened. You want to know my thoughts, I want to beat the shit out of the little bastard, I won't of course but I imagine doing it. Let me tell you that would make him think twice before making anymore comments. Anyway I'm off topic a bit. I have to say that even with my personal experience in bullying (I wasn't only verbally abused in middle school but physically too) I have to say that kids grow up, most grow out of it. I used to sit outside the bathroom where we changed for PE listening to the girls talk about me, but I have fine relations with them now. Really I think the only kids that you have to worry about not growing out of their bullying are the ones that are violent. But some of these "victims" need to just toughen up. I went through it and am fine my father went through it even worse and he didn't even have a family that cared but he's fine, and my brother's going to be fine. You take your insults and you go on because that's the way it is. It would be lovely if it wasn't that way and we should try to fix it but until it is fixed deal with it.
And one last very important thing, people seem to be missing the main problem with this situation. It's the fact that being called gay is an insult in the first place. That being called gay is seen as embarrassing and wrong. Because you know I bet gay people don't get to offended when you accuse them of being straight.
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Ah, someone agrees. I do believe the victims definately need to toughen up and grow some skin. I find the act of suicide rather disgusting for some of the reasons you mentioned already. If someone insults you, then you insulting back isn't doing you any good, in fact, you're showing an even lower level of immaturity. The same goes for whining about it and eventually committing suicide.
I was bullied throughout much of school, had at times a rough childhood with parents, a good amount from my grandmother who lived at home (she's dead now, don't care though), anything from being called a worthless piece of shit to other things, although I'll return back to the topic of the thread now.
Kids are kids and kids will do some of this bullying stuff. You need to grow some skin, harden up and if need be, just not give a crap about anyone or anything else. If someone insults you, then you try to not insult back nor mope and whine. I tend to just laugh at the insults because the person is simply in their retardation, and cannot convey an idea to me in a more mature, objective way.